what’s a better way to ask that question when you want some kind but honest feedback
When I’m asking, I try to make my questions very specific & limit the choices i.e. ‘Do you like this better with the scarf or the necklace?’, ‘Is this too many colors to wear at once?’
On the better question front, a more specific question is useful. Like “Do these colors look right together?” or “Is this blouse formal/summery/etc?” The problem with “Do I look ok?” is that all answers mean *you* physically don’t look ok, which probably isn’t true and isn’t going to get said even if it happens to be…
Unless I’m after something specific (a la “is this dress appropriate for this occasion?”) I don’t ask. If you say I look great I’ll assume you’re just being nice and if you’re honest, I sure as hell don’t want to hear “actually, you’re putting on a few and should lay off the cake” (which I already know anyway.)
This is one of the “four noble truths” of Buddhism - the idea that desire is the root of all suffering. Negative experience is a manifestation of the difference between our current state and our desired state. Eliminate that difference, and you eliminate the suffering.
That’s just what a serial killer would say!
There’s a very prolific serial killer currently operating in my state. He has killed over 1,300 people this year alone after killing 1,600 in 2016 and a thousand or more people every year before that. He is coldly mechanical, with zero emotions or regrets. His victims often die bloody. He can strike at any time, day…
I always thought of IPA’s as an easy way for people who cant taste much to enjoy beer. Basically, If I am just getting into beer tasting, and want to sound like I know what I’m talking about, I can easily discern a difference in hoppiness, as opposed to more subtle flavors like coriander or nuttiness. Similar to the…
Yeah, there are certain IPAs I enjoy quite a bit, but I avoid anything that aggressively markets itself as being super-duper-ultra-mega hoppy. Happy mediums do exist.
I only ever play DotA 2 online and I’ve done so since the days of yore, so I’ve seen the gamut. My go to is:
I used to fight with this at work a lot. People would come ask me questions about our drafting program (AutoCAD) and I would take the time to explain how to change the settings, style, etc as well how why those settings needed to be changed. Drove my boss nuts that i spent so much time standing around talking to…
There’s having an opinion on something, and then there’s investing your self-worth into something then having it feel like a personal insult whenever someone criticises that thing.
“Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to post a comment and remove all doubt.”
I know, and Pinkham is still in solid form, but the commenters ‘here’ were so very awesome.
It taught me lots of stuff, like not eating everything that smells good, because sometimes it’s a candle.
That’s the one that hurt. Why waiting tables is seen as a job for the lowest of the low. I would say at least half of the staff I worked with were students or mothers trying to pay their bills. Yes, you can get some shady people working in restaurants but the majority of people are just trying to make ends meet and…
See this one didn’t necessarily bother me given that I usually had end of shift work to do but with that in mind, don’t wait around after your meal. I’m more than patient but don’t make me waste my night for a couple bucks. If someone just pops in at the last minute and genuinely needs wants to eat I don’t mind.
Also, any reputable kitchen will go out of their way to fulfill a reasonable request, just be very clear about what you want when you ask, and be understanding if we say we can’t make it happen for whatever reason.