I'm for collectively liking something. But the poster holder's shitty messages really are not it.

But he ISN'T affirming her choices. She's affirming his.

The mens' signs are like some MRA campaign.

So you're calling all those women liars?

Yeah, this just looks like self-justification (from the non-feminist) side for non feminist shit. It's pretty damned easy to tell if a dude disagrees with you because you're a woman but does anybody really expect that sort of guy to be honest?

Exactly. Each of these signs might as well end with, "Stop being so hysterical - my actions are never influenced by cultural expectations of my gender and yours." #irony

When I help you learn to mend your own clothes (instead of just doing it for you because I know how) it's so you can learn a skill that was never asked of you because it is traditionally female. Feminism means breaking down and undoing traditional gender roles. Feminism does not mean perpetuating traditional gender…

Yeah, there's that as well. Saying "it's OK I do the housework because I'm just better at it" without questioning why the man was never taught to sew, or whatever, isn't exactly groundbreaking stuff.

"feminism' is not a means to justify self entitlement"?

Where are all these feminists who bite men's heads off when they open doors for them? Because I hear about them all the time, when people try to discredit feminism or reassure people "i'm feminist, but not one of those feminists" but I have never met anyone too militant to say anything but "thank you" when someone…

I still feel like "paying for my meal is romantic" and "I sew better than you" have gendered implications. Paying for my meal is NOT "selecting a restaurant that you know I'd be really excited about". I don't understand what part of having people buy you things is supposed to be romantic. anyway, whatever, this couple…

Here's a feminist nuance for ya - Some of us feminists have relationships with people of the same gender.

I think the audience is probably young feminists who are trying to figure out how hard a line they need to draw against chivalry / traditional gender roles in order to have an 'acceptable' feminist relationship.

Yeah. All of them seem to be directed at women. Even the guy's cards are about just because he doesn't agree with you doesn't mean it is because you are a woman, when he takes you out calm down it's not because he thinks he owns you, and in general saying women are defensive or overly sensitive.

Actually I think the second sign would say "When I tell you to smile, it's because I freak out a little when you're unhappy and I want to make it stop but I don't know how". No? Just me?

I think I made that exact face.

Yeah, I'm not really feeling it either. Mostly because...like, who is the audience for this? I am a feminist. My partner is a feminist. None of this stuff is anything either of us has ever had to articulate, because duh.

Also, I assumed his comment meant that, in real life, he would be going in drag since he is not, himself, trans.

You pretty much have to never talk about trans issues ever because odds are, you're going to offend SOMEONE. I've started taking the same tact on race, because there's just no room for even minor errors.

I don't say this to defend Leto's comments, but I don't recall anything in Dallas Buyer's Club that specifies Rayon to be trans. So why has the character been identified as such in all ensuing discussion about the film and the role?