Yes, to all of this. Also decorating the studios in an “orientalist” way and using certain things in a “coachella” way (for fashion) is all part of that, too.

I’m sorry that you got fired. It is very demoralising.

Job hunting is hell. I hope you find something amazing soon!

I’m very sorry for your loss. That is so shocking, and I’m glad you were with him — in some way — near the end. It is a small comfort, but I hope it is one nonetheless.

I’m so sorry about the loss of your father, and so thankful that you’re getting out of such a difficult marriage. it isn’t your job to get him help, so you’re doing the right thing.

Good news is so wonderful! I wish you all the best every day in the future.

Thank you for the update and many hugs for you. I’m so glad that you are happy and well — able to focus on your family now and feeling positive!

beautiful!

i’m proud of you for taking these very positive steps!

Such a sweet beauty! With her proper little white gloves!

This is going to go all woo, but please understand that I take a Jungian approach to myths and folklore — so the underlying concept is that she’s dealing with something in herself that has a reflection in myths and stories that can help her deal with it.

i’m sorry you’re so exhausted. it’s also ok to delegate. just write what you wrote here to your bridesmaids, include a list of what needs to be done, and see what they volunteer to do for you. it’ll help at least. take good care of yourself.

We invested it.

honestly, I consider this holiday stuff *really hard*. I have enough going on day to day that organising for holidays is *ridiculous*.

This whole system — academia — is totally fucked up. It’s a disaster, and I’m sorry that you’re caught in it.

I’m so sorry for the loss of your Sweet Mocha. Bunnies are the most incredible creatures — so powerful and so precious. I’m so sorry that you lost yours.

Well, that’s exactly it.

Of course not. I guess it does for some people, but I basically just avoided those folks and, when trapped with them (say, high school classroom), just ignored their criticism ad infinitum.

Isn’t it interesting that you need to caveat your statement that you’re married and thick-haired? It matters more to you than it does to most women — at least those grown/over 30.

The main thing is that male pattern baldness is both common and fairly normal — and men don’t need to shame themselves or each other over baldness.