Male mediocrity being awarded is so common that it’s not even newsworthy anymore.

Reads like any generic forever-in-the-greys gawker commenter to me.

art tevana is consistently boring and gross.

That hit home for me as well. We had a daughter stillborn at 33 weeks and in the hospital we went to they placed a small picture of a black rose on the door. I still can’t imagine the amount of strength and courage it took for my wife to be induced, go through labor, and give birth to a daughter that she knew was…

Yep. Proof positive right here you can 100% definitely get pregnant with the pull-out method. Just because she didn't doesn't make it so. I appreciate her brave story and my heart breaks for her (having also miscarried). But yeah...don't count on withdrawal!

because fucking condoms! Condoms are far more effective and help protect against STIs. And the issue with the pull-out method is that you have to really be diligent about it. It involves trust between partners and a lot of what I have seen is that in communities that involve a lot of stigma around sex focus…

Ugh— you probably also had to deal with the well-meaning strangers talking happily to you about your pregnancy.

the woman literally emailed me right after the story went up to say “i’m glad you told that commenter to fuck off”

While what her jackass boss did is not a HIPPA violation, in some states (like mine CA) it is a major legal violation and there are massive reprocussions, up to and including termination. Now I am only familiar with CA law which are some of the strictest in the country, I’m not sure what NY labor laws and privacy laws…

I had a full-term stillbirth and I related to so very much of this. I can’t even fathom being in a position where making a choice and being forced to jump through a million hoops to see that choice through were part of the equation.

Oh, word: The practice isn’t a 401c3 non profit, as this interview here explains, so the only way to donate is to make out a check directly to the office or to him (Warren M. Hern) and send it in the mail to

PLEASE fuck off

The sad face sticker on the door really hit home for me.

I didn’t see this right away and I called Dr. Hern’s office to ask how I could donate money directly to the practice. I had a fifteen-minute conversation with Dr. Hern himself. In addition to being a hero, he is a very humble and cool guy.

Thank you Jia, and thank you, Elizabeth. Telling and publishing these stories is vital to keeping abortion safe and legal. We need more of our stories out there.

I had an abortion at 20 weeks for chromosomal abnormalities. The baby would have lived, but there was no way to tell how much brain or organ function would…

I get that it works for some people, but as someone who did their thesis on sexual health education, I would never recommend the pull-out method as a primary source of prevention.

I just want to highlight this passage for anyone who skims or just jumps to the comments. Because truer words.

Here’s a link to Dr. Hern’s clinic for anyone interested in offering support directly to the people who work there, and here’s the National Network of Abortion Funds. The George Tiller Memorial Fund specifically goes to late abortions.

fuck off

I dealt with a bunch of bullying and rejection from around 12 to 14 because I was something of an “awkward duckling.” Coupled with untreated depression and I was a bit of a suicidal brooding mess. It never occurred to me that these boys owed me or were leading me on. Girls tend to internalize these feelings while boys…