I know this extremely varies, but if they’re adults now I think it’s safe to contact them. I’d love to hear from a new willing brother/sister, especially if they seemed to have things in common with me. Parents die; sibling bonds can be special. Hopefully they find you!

I have several half-siblings I’ve never met too, though I’m not adopted. (Bio dad left my mom before I was born and never attempted to contact me.) I don’t think any of them even know that I exist. I found my bio dad a few years ago but it really wasn’t particularly exciting. We e-mailed a couple times and spoke on…

Search or not, reunite or not - is not the issue except that it should be an individual decision and a personal choice — a choice which is TAKEN AWAY from every adopted person when their original birth certificate is sealed and a new FALSE one issues.

I find this weird too - I have two younger half-siblings, in addition to the two half-siblings I grew up with, and I...don’t think they know who I am?

Have you considered going to an adoptee group? I went to one when I was searching and it was really helpful to talk to people about this stuff. I also heard a wild range of reunion and adoption stories that helped me prepare for the worst and the best.

My biological mother listed a man in my records who turned out not to be my biological father after I tracked him down and did a paternity test. She was also nice enough but not super interested in pursuing an ongoing relationship. I also worry that my conception was not consensual.

Don’t forget the adoptees who DON’T want to contact their birth parents!

I was adopted in a state with sealed records too. I don’t want their info directly-the agency I was adopted through has options in place where you reach out to the agency and the agency reaches out to the other party to see if they’re amenable to contact from you. I’m happy that it worked out so well for you, though,…

Why do you hate those stories? There aren’t always ways of finding through the agency - I was adopted in a state with sealed records. My birthmother thought I could find her whenever I wanted to. When I found her through other means, she was overjoyed (same with birthdad).

This. Carrying a pregnancy is a 9 month physical trial. Heck, I’ve got a friend doing a 60 day high intensity interval training program, that involves exercise and meal modification, and she staggers in with various aching muscles and I’m like, 60 DAYS of this? B*tch, you cray.

The white savior vision is strong in transracial adoptions. I would be a millionaire if I got paid everyone told me how “lucky” I am to be adopted by an American family. I’ve also had people tell me that if I weren’t adopted, I probably would have been a prostitute in my home country. Gee, thanks.

Absolutely this. I was adopted at birth, and I delayed starting the official process of looking for my parents for about two years (in my state you had to be at least 21) because I was so scared that they couldn’t be found or didn’t want to be found. I know I’m fortunate to have found them both and to have a really…

Your sister’s experience is more common than people realize, from what I have seen (as an aparent). The stereotype of the joyous reunion is just that. Lots of adoptees get rejected as she did, as do many birthmoms who seek out their kids. 

My sister and her husband just adopted an infant domestically and it was an emotional and financial clusterfuck. Just the sheer amount of emotional time and labor required is a note of the privilege of the situation. They essentially had to be in a place where it was possible for other people, or other things (most…

WEEKS where I am. I foolishly assumed I could look forward to more sun after the solstice, but nope, sunrise keeps getting later until mid-January.

I strongly recommend AAA battery-powered headlamps over USB-charged ones. Spare batteries weigh practically nothing and can be changed out in no time (even with cold fingers), but when your fancy ultralight USB light is dead, it’s dead.

As usual, not answering her claims but going off mentioning unrelated stuff calling himself Christian, which bullshit of the highest order.

I want to punch his smug little face. He, his family and everyone he knows have never done anything great and will never do anything great. They are the definition of mediocre.

Ugh, white people are the worst...

I, too, am sick of the purity tests all liberals have to live up to now, BUT antisemitism (yes, I believe it’s antisemitism) is a line I’m willing to draw for myself to say I cannot support something. I am Jewish. I have been following this very closely as someone who wants to march and take part. I feel like they…