Yes, I mean, I make no guarantees, I can’t predict or explain, just hustle the anecdata. My SO is actually pretty great, compared to some of the things I’m reading about on here. He does care, he does listen, he changes. He is never abusive or deliberately gaslighting me. I couldn’t even finish reading the metafilter…

Pretty much. I don’t like it, I try to pass on along what emotional labor, in my experience, has the best success/effort ratio.

Deepest sympathy! There is no “why.”. Kids don’t want to use the toilet, diapers are easier. Because someone changes them quickly and neatly, so they can get back to playing or the tv.

I dealt with that partly by saying, “Well, I haven’t finished, do it now” and also by using the word “lying.”. As in, “why did you lie to me about cleaning the kitchen?” Or as a statement, rather than a question “You lied to me, now I can’t trust you.” I think it surprised my SO but men take “lying”more seriously than…

“The arc of the moral universe is wide, but not as wide as my ass, thanks to all this butter I eat!”. :-)

That is progress, and boys do take forever. Mine would do absolutely nothing at 2 years old. You’re living the dream!

When birthdays roll around I temporarily convert to JW.

Oh congrats on the potty training. My kids took FOREVER. If the man says, I was going to do that, just say “sorry” and hand him the vacuum/ scrub brush/dirty diaper. Like if someone says, hey that’s my cab! Or I was going to eat that piece of pie. Well, here you go.

Ithink Norah Epjron wrote an essay about that, saying if your man asks where the butter is, always say, “I don’t know.” I agree with you. Fuck ing glorious, and I’d rather be a bitch than a maid or a mom, too!

Oh, the important thing? I definitely threw it out. It’s gone bye bye. Any more questions? :-)

I have dealt with a similar infuriating situation. (I’m not saying my partner once woke me up from a nap to ask me what time it was, but I’m not NOT saying it either.) What worked for me: telling him in a calm moment, that I didn’t want him to interrupt my reading, writing, or resting with questions he could easily…

Agree! Have considered same.

Perfectmetaphor for the Tea Party Republicans. A young black woman is minding her own business in public, and this elderly white couple CANNOT. They have to police her or dominate her somehow. They can’t just leave her the fuck alone.

LolI thought that was a cute typo, and when I saw your comment, I thought it was someone else calling you an idiot, and I was going to defend you. It’s a good pun, professional, hire, get it?

I’m an atheist who likes secular, indulgent, fun Christmas. These mandatory Christmas jerks are ruining *my* holiday. Also, unrelated but kinda related: my friend is named Isla, and my phone auto corrected her name to “Islam.”. When gossiping about her, I text things like, “I think Greg is really into Islam. I was…

yes yes a thousand times yes, she should go to jail, on behalf of my disabled niece and her classmates. She probably needs psychiatric help, and I hope she gets it, but mostly needs to stay the hell away from vulnerable people.

Total Freakin Badass...the COURAGE of this woman...

YES. Michelle would be all, don’t gimme this stand by your man crap. I’m not scared of you, lady.

I’d like to have Michelle just go over there and melt Billn with her death glare.

I grew up in Fort Worth! All my friends but me (because of allergies and one real case of dog-phobia in my household) are actively involved in rescue adoption and no-kill shelters. Everyone I know is fostering and trying to get animals adopted on Fb. One just got another pet this weekend...I wonder if anyone I know,…