Yeah, I’ve recently gotten out of some friendships/romantic relationship that mirrored my relationship with my mom. They were controlling, insulting, mood-shifting and toxic people, but I still feel like i should have somehow *tolerated* them better or *not been so sensitive* even while knowing on a very logical level…

Oh fuck. Yes this was my mom. She told us (at a way too young age to understand) that she was suicidal and wanted to kill herself but didn’t because OF US. yet she never seemed to enjoy any of the daily activities of child-rearing (I can imagine that there are some depressed people who genuinely enjoy being a parent…

There is no fun in dysfunctional. Thank you so much for replying and sharing, though, it does make me feel like I’m not alone is having an odd and estranged relationship to my parents. It hard for people to understand parents that just aren’t quite capable of loving their children; its hard for adult child to…

There is a book called “Speaking with Vampires” (Luise White) about African colonization and the metaphors that local people used about the bloody massacres, and even colonial aid workers and doctors as vampires because they wanted fluids and blood samples. So its while that dosn’t have much to do about the original…

Its not all bad- there is certainly a lot to be said of the cuddling and of the sleep-inducing properties of nursing for both baby and stressed out mama- I am weaning my son now, at 12 months, but we’re still doing a 6am and 6pm feeding, and I’m actually a little sad to see these go in the next couple months.…

Oh my god, my family is your family: parents are the same NPD mom + Bipolar/Hypomania and overmedicated father . . .I love my father (because, well, he always loved me) and have tried to see him separately from my mom, but my mom will always invite herself along and intrude.

Congratulations for seeking therapy and medication. If you know that you have a personality disorder, then please consider staying in therapy and on medication even beyond when you think your acute problems have resolved. My mom stopped therapy once she was no longer suicidal, but the personality disorder/problematic…

Having a child changes things. My last attempts at arguing and soliciting therapy with my mom were when I was pregnant, and I was like “this is the last time I try to repair our relationship for the sake of the kid.” She argued back, didn’t take me up on group therapy, and didn’t change her behavior. Then I actually…

“Throw anything that would stick” this is my moms tactic for argument too, and she never sees her self contradictions; samples: “Hey mom, why did you ignore me growing up?” “Because your brother needed more attention and had special needs” “so why didn’t you send Brother to a therapist like his teachers recommended”…

because you’re expecting delightful self-depricating cheese eating liz lemon. and its not liz lemon.

My mom was suicidal for most of my childhood (age 0-10). Thankfully she wasn’t also a drug addict! So while I can forgive her as someone who suffers from mental illness, that does not mean that I want a close relationship with her. A lot of her emotionally stunted, clingy, manipulative behavior has continued, even if…

So many clauses! Shorten your sentences! What are the antecedents to those pronouns? What does that even mean?

When my baby turns 14, I’m going to sit them down to watch Requiem for a Dream and Trainspotting. Those movies truly turned me off from even doing hard drugs.

Yeah. The British have no “tradition” of abdication like the Dutch monarchs . . .they are ride or die.

In my mind, its the sequel to “It’s Complicated” that nobody asked for, starring Bruce Willis.

I bought a dress from mod cloth recently based on look alone, when it actually shipped and I tried it on, I was SHOCKED that it was Jessica Simpson (had avoided based on name only, as I am snobby I guess). But it was super flattering! And someone told me I looked like I should be sipping martinis on a yacht! So, I am…

Yeah, I tried real hard to get riled up about Candace Cameron’s whole Christian “women should be subservient to their husbands” schtick, but then I read her explanation of what the word and the concept mean to her, and came away shrugging my shoulders. I don’t agree with her, but I don’t think she’s aggressively…

Physical pain in my life: (1) Childbirth —98/100 pain points (2) Brazilian Bikini Wax 92/100 pain points (3) breaking both bones in my arm while rollerblading — eh like 60/100 pain points

Seconded. Pierce Brosnan circa Mrs. Doubtfire (uhmygawd that pool scene). I got into the James Bond franchise for him and Garbage doing “the world is not enough” theme song.

sign me up!