I agree with this. I quite like his writing, generally. But taking responsibility and apologizing for ugly shit you do and say goes a really long way. Nearly everyone has said things they regret or didn’t think through or didn’t realize were bad till someone called them out. That’s ok. These things happen. But owning…

Probably everyone has said some dumb/offensive/problematic shit in the last decade. No one is perfect. But if someone calls you (general you, not you specifically) out on saying something problematic, even if it’s something you said a while ago, you should stop and reflect. And own up to what you said and apologize,…

I haven’t read Forgotten Fire, but that Hitler quote makes me feel physically ill. Humans just LOVE to bury our heads in the sand about the truly horrible shit we do to each other. I went to the Killing Fields outside of Phnom Penh recently and it blows my mind that it took so long for people to begin to acknowledge…

PS I’ve been commenting on Jez on and off for a pretty long time. Can I stop being gray, please?

Ugh I didn’t see the original post, but SO many of these things sound horribly familiar. At my old job, it was ALWAYS the women who cleaned up in the staff lounge, washed the dishes, set up for staff parties, etc. This creepy dude I worked with would walk by me in the hall, look me up and down in a super obvious way,…

It’s a wonder anyone gets laid in a world where the human female body in all its forms is deemed disgusting.

Ugh, that “I’m going to eat you for dessert and not in a hot way” stare is SO fucking creepy. Big ol’ red flag that they don’t see you as a human being.

I so hope that you’re wrong and I’m so disgusted that you’re probably right.

I feel like this is what I tell myself every time a video like this is released or we hear yet another story about white police murdering black victims. Every time, I watch the video or read the story and I wallow in horror and then I think, “well, this time people will have to pay attention, right?” But then they…

When I was little I had a kilt made out of my family's tartan. Also I love our badge.

I can see this, but I actually feel like they’ll be super excited to see each other at first because each thought the other was dead, and then the reality of everything that’s happened will set in and they’ll realize they really don’t trust each other.

Ugh people are terrible. I just... feel like it’s SO inappropriate to comment on another person’s appearance or weight, especially if that person is a stranger! I don’t even really comment when I know a friend is actively trying to lose or gain weight. It’s just not anyone else’s fucking business. My best friend is…

FOR REAL. My grandparents had three kids - one biological and two adopted. I think it's disgusting to imply that they loved my aunt more than my uncle and my mom because she's their biological daughter. They adopted kids because they wanted to adopt kids, not because it was some last resort, and they completely…

I've thought about this a lot. I think I want kids someday (although it's a decision I will only make after a TON of consideration), but I'm more likely to adopt. I don't particularly want to pass on my depression/anxiety etc.

It's definitely not their time to talk. But any people who consider themselves allies sure as hell should show up and listen.

Ocella made me spot like CRAZY, but I didn't know about Zarah! Definitely something to look into :) Thanks!

Ugh, the heavy spotting sucks the most. One of the reasons I went on HBC was because my periods were heavy and two weeks long. I didn't need to go from that to slightly shorter twice-monthly periods. I actually don't take Yasmin anymore because it was too expensive under my old insurance, but I haven't really liked…

This is a really excellent point. There is maybe evidence of correlation between Crohn's and birth control, but that doesn't necessarily indicate causation.

You're making me want to move to Australia...

The dog shit thing though... not just Paris. My ex lived in Avignon for a while and when he first moved there he convinced himself that wild dogs came from outside of the city every night, shit everywhere, and then left. He just could. not. wrap his head around the idea that people didn't pick up after their dogs.