Is there a reason we're not calling this rape? If the boys were underage, that's what it was.

I actually had a professor in college who did something similar with his ratemyprofessors.com page. He basically made it a competition over who could leave the worst, most ridiculous review. People wrote things about him being a werewolf and Voldemort supporter, or said that he had deluded himself into believing he…

Ugh I know it's like Caroline Weinberg knows my life or something.

I can see how this instagram just seems like we're giving out cookies for something minor, but NOT reading is a total deal breaker for me in a relationship. I once went on a date with a guy who informed me that he hadn't ever finished a book. Ever. In his whole life. We went out a few more times because he was hot…

My brother does a naked bike ride in Vermont every year. In the middle of winter. Which I suppose helps take care of the sweaty/slippery seat situation, anyway. And the numbness.

Hm. I think this is a poor excuse to not try to learn basics. I moved to Vietnam about a month ago, and while I have no doubt it will take me the majority of my three years here to learn the language in any kind of meaningful way, I picked up niceties and "survival" language (hello, thank you, right/left/straight,…

Yeah I mean, "consensual non-consent" and blood play are both things some people in the BDSM community are into, and some subs like when their D-types leave marks, but actually wanting to rape (not just acting out a fantasy) or kill seems to me to be firmly in psycho territory. That, plus the fact that if this woman…

I was just going to post something similar - when I started running 4 years ago, I stopped focusing on my weight. I may have actually put on some weight at first because I was eating more. But I didn't care because seeing my weekly mileage creep up as I trained for my first race was so inspiring and exciting. Over…

There's a really interesting theory that this story changed drastically after the fall of Jerusalem and the destruction of the Temple - early Christians didn't want to be seen as blaming the Romans for Jesus's death and they wanted to distance themselves from the Jewish community, so the gospels change the story by…

While I agree with this to an extent, I also grew up around a lot of Christians who aren't policing peoples' morality etc. I grew up around a lot of Christians who are fairly progressive, open-minded, thoughtful individuals who question what they're told and accept the validity of multiple perspectives. I've had…

I'm so sorry that you can relate to this. I can relate to this, too. I was 18 the first time I was raped. At first, I didn't even acknowledge that that's what actually happened. It took having another friend with a similar experience, and being able to call her experience what it was. Nearly ten years later, some…

Ah yes of course. So the white dude who leaned out of his car the other day as I walked past to yell something about my body wasn't catcalling. And the other group of white guys sitting on a porch loudly "rating" the women who walked past probably weren't catcalling either. Good to know, thanks so much for clearing…

Wow, your story about the guy running his hands through your hair absolutely made my skin crawl. I am so disgusted that someone invaded your space like that (and that it sounds like this is not an uncommon occurrence). I just... can't even imagine what must be going on in their heads that they think it's appropriate…

To be fair, my mom used to put my hair in sponge curlers when it was wet and then I'd sleep in them (totally comfortable because they are soft). We only did this for really special occasions, but the sponge curlers made my hair look like it had been curled with an iron, just without the same level of effort. So this…

Agreed - good fabric (not to mention high-quality buttons and zippers) is costly. I studied costume design in college and worked in a professional costume shop afterwards. I am capable of making or tailoring my own clothing. But I choose not to because I have a full-time job and am in graduate school and…

Ugh the assumption that consenting to one thing means consenting to anything makes me SO angry. I am so, so sorry that this happened to you. I am glad you know it's not your fault.

Is this like the weight version of "I'm not racist, I have black friends?"

My life, on the contrary, has been full of white privilege and class privilege and all kinds of privilege; her stories are not mine.

I love when people say things like "it can lead to some scary results" when it's a brand new law and there's no evidence whatsoever of these "scary results."

The idea of this family structure is super interesting to me, but I agree that living with my mother would be... not my first choice. Like, I love her, but she makes me fucking crazy also. However, raising kids with my brother and sisters would be awesome. We'd have such empathetic, well-adjusted kids in that house.