Thank you! not that it matters now, but I really believe he had no intention on ending our relationship and would have figured out bigamy and continued with the double life. Then what would I have done? I’d be 10 times as ruined.

Thank you! The weird thing was some of his lies were so shitty so I believed the stuff that he didn’t hesitate/looked me in the eye on (“I love you;” “I want to take care of you;”). I wonder if that was part of his deal or if he’s not as skilled on the explanation front.

I am super shitty at karaoke, but I guess that…

Bastard! Good for you :) And thank you. I need to have that jackhammered into my head that there was nothing I could have done to prevent this aside from seeing the signs and bailing out. It’s not because the last time we talked on the phone, we had a minor argument. It’s not because I became sad and hard to deal with…

There’s also this odd in between feeling where I’m mourning for the guy I knew. I feel like that will stick around.

Ugh, screw your asshole ex! I don’t know if I’ll ever feel okay dating another guy in this field.

That’s interesting! Most people here are saying I’ll never hear from him again with a few saying I should block him, but I’m curious what sort of bullshit he could possibly drum up. That he was in a coma? I’d like to think…

I’m scared because I want to go back to LA (to visit and to live) but we went everywhere in the city together. He’s ruined my favorite restaurants in LA and the Midwest, Christmas, dine in movie theaters, and my favorite resort :( Maybe I shouldn’t give him so much power, but damn, I wish I hadn’t shown him everything…

I’m glad it got better for you! This thread has brought a lot of clarity, so maybe I won’t wake up crying tomorrow. I’ve said this before but its like he died.

He loves himself so much. Even before this went down, I knew he was so arrogant and called him out on it. He always talked about how great he was. His confidence was part of what attracted me.

Thank you for sharing. It’s horrifying. One day he was there stroking my hair (y’know, in an LDR metaphorical sense) and then with that phone call the man I know was dead. You take care of yourself too <3

Thank you. I’ll see my bunny in a few days (the only man I trust now), so I’ll cuddle him :)

Thank you! I didn’t expect such a wealth of replies, but having unbiased takes on the situation has been incredibly helpful. You sound like you’ve been there before <3

Aww, thank you!! The problem with my anger is, even though I have so much of it, I’ve yet to learn how to channel it well. I stew and dwell and let it bog me down. Like thinking of him living a great life without a dent from what he’s done makes me want to throw things. Thinking of him manipulating his poor wife to…

You’re right. I don’t think he loved/s either of us.

Well, I asked him once how he knew he first loved me and he said “I’d kill for you.” He was weird like that, so I didn’t take it too seriously. What bothered me more was that he watched the Eric Garner video and remarked “I don’t think he should have been killed, but I see why the cop acted like he did.”

Thank you!

Okay. I’ve addressed this. The people who I replied to have addressed my addressing. Please stop commenting on every post where I’ve said something about her to say the same thing. If you have been the wife in this situation, I truly feel for you, just like I feel for her. I didn’t give every single detail of the…

Aww, thank you. I like to think I have some sparkle. I can’t let that fucker extinguish me [cue Katy Perry shooting fireworks from her breasts]

I just cannot cope with the idea of him fucking me up and having no feelings about doing so. Even if he is a true sociopath, I think I have to tell myself he must have some conscience and feels like shit. I’ll never know, but the thought makes me feel better. Maybe denial, but if it makes no difference, why not feel…

That explains a lot. He’s had tons of opportunities to break it off during our little fights. I just thought he never wanted to because he loved me too much to let little things break us apart, like I did. Maybe it means nothing

Thank you, it really helps to know I have some shred of sanity left up there :) I know it’s not my problem, but I hope she gets away. She’s spent almost half her life with him. It scares me to think that I might have stayed too.