I’m going to ramble ramble ramble. Interestingly (not really), this is a burner account I created in order to post about the worst week of my life on an SNS a few months ago. In July, I got a call from the WIFE of my sweet loving boyfriend who I’d been with for 2 years and intended to spend the rest of my life with.…

My soul has been fucking obliterated by the man I thought I’d spend the rest of my life with, so maybe my bitter two cents doesn’t mean much. But I totally agree. I think he’s a douche

The fat shaming advice was in 2014. I think I was low-key hate reading it before then too. I used to like to make fun of the readers, like someone was stressed out that their cereal bowls were getting stained or something.

I used to read Dear Abby, and then there was a column where some girl’s mom was uncomfortable with the way she dressed when she came home from college. Abby proceeded to fat shame the girl, going as far as saying her mother would be prouder of her if she did something about her weight. Worse yet, her commenters…

Thank you, I’ll see what options i have. I’ve been fighting it for 14 months, and it sucks. all the people close to me are baffled with how hard the transition was/is

I’m so glad you escaped her! Yes, I’m so overwhelmed with fucking feelings. Right now it’s anger that he has so much money

I’ve been struggling with wanting to move back since I got here. M told me I needed to stay in my program, that I was building a future for us. MOTHERFUCKER. I considered transferring to a similar program in the Bay Area this spring but decided against it. Now I’m kind of stuck here for the next 2 years unless I want…

I’m so sorry— I’m glad you’ve made it through :) Thank you... the outpouring of support here has been amazing. I’m glad to have a community

This is actually incredibly comforting. Part of what hurts so badly is he knew me so well (maybe better than anyone ever has) for 2 years and made me feel I was the love of his life. It’s a blast to my ego that he would dispose of me after knowing all my shit, good and bad. Even though everyone keeps saying it’s his…

One thing I’m learning is that women like to blame each other. That Brandy and Monica song always got me because I was like “This guy is a fuck, you should both dump him? Why do you hate each other so much?” But I was just as guilty. I immediately thought CK must be making stuff up.

I’m so sorry :( I’m glad you’re out. I’ll watch my back. It’s going to take me some time to work through this all. It’s funny though, wouldn’t you think that logically they’d prey at your weakest?

Well, he told me it was a fake non-official marriage and that they were leading separate lives and not living together :( He drug me into his world... I wasn’t a peeping tom who was trying to creep on their (supposedly non-existent) relationship. I had no rights, ever. I always asked him why he didn’t end the false…

I disagree. Yes, I had a difficult childhood and lots of people have hurt me, but I’ve worked through the bulk of that. I agree I definitely need therapy, especially after this, but I don’t believe I’m putting anything on him unfairly. I do find it really messed up that he knows I’ve been hurt and has put me through…

Hahaha! That honestly cheers me up so much. He was always singing praises for Oregon ever since we met. I think it has something to do with more lax gun laws than California. Interestingly, he told me he was applying for a job in Portland and a job in Eugene.

I hope so! But after 13 years of this, I bet she has some superpower-level denial skills. Or it could go the other way and she has a ninja BS detector. Or both.

I should write a Lifetime Movie. “Based on a true story.”

I love that advice.

Ohhh, the “fill a hole” line hit me where it hurt too! Thank you <3 I felt very serene after sending that email. Maybe that was the beginning of my closure. Also, I’m glad you divorced that shitty asshole.

She didn’t say, but if she’s like me, she’s too sick to her stomach to want food. I just weighed myself and I’m 6 pounds down.

Thank you! I hope I will. Right now, he’s enmeshed in my brain and my life. I hate that he met my family.