Yep, exactly. Rich’s last piece on teens and HIV back in July nicely dodged this point in favor of ‘yay, sex!’, and this one isn’t any better with the one line throwaway (“At sex parties themselves, by the way, STIs are rarely a topic of conversation”).

Thanks for this. A while back I got slammed on Jezebel during their own sex series for even suggesting that nipple orgasms were possible for many women. Cracked me up; oh the horror of experimentation! It’s a sad statement about porn that so many of the things that are useful in bed just aren’t shown.

http://lifehacker.com/how-to-play-with-breasts-1798553652

Ugh. One part slightly right, the other really bad.

If you’re going to argue that BDSM widespread out of the LGBT community, oral sex was what you did before and now often in place of PIV, and anal was commonplace in the early 90s, then I congratulate you on your choice of college and acquaintances and suggest that you may want to talk to people outside of them - as…

I’m surprised that there’s no discussion in this article about the evolution of kink, as it’s opened up dramatically.

While I’m not sure I’d agree with your first point, I think your second is quite accurate. Women’s bodies react very differently to the same stimuli. It’s why conversations like this article are helpful to a degree but not as much as they should be, because it’s the classic case of YMMV.

I’d love to see that presentation. I’m very curious where they’re getting their numbers from and how they’re modeling it, because it doesn’t reflect the consensus of the peer reviewed work that’s been published.

I’m curious: how is your organization dealing with how to promulgate safer sex practices and making sure people know what constitutes risky behavior in all of this, along with explaining other STD risk?

I’m surprised this has never been taken down, but for those who haven’t seen it, you need to.

Yep, and that last bit really concerns me. Everything I’ve read on the epidemiology side suggests that precisely because of the perception of risk being lowered, one of the unintended consequences of PrEP is that much riskier behavior is now considered acceptable. My own experience in talking to plenty of those in…

Possible, but this article seems to miss one of the strongest subtexts made in the NYT article (on the cishet side of things, at least.)

That’s odd.

Are you posting in w4m or t4m?

Eh, if you’re going to equate pointing out ‘hey, this is a factual, practical example of people not being able to manage the multiple relationship sides of a poly relationship being a concern’ with a microaggression then perhaps it’s time to step back a bit.

Hannah is getting properly skewered over mis/reusing the headline of ‘threesome’. It’s poly, and referring to a long-standing triad that way is somewhat insulting to members of that community.

Hi Mocena!

Mocena didn’t particularly like this response, so I’ll just repost it here.

Hi Mocena! Since you were offended enough by this to dismiss my post, I’ll respond in kind and repost. You see, I’m ungreyed. We can keep playing that game if you’d like, but it’s pretty dumb and turns this place into an echo chamber.

From your comment history, you were abused. I’m sorry that happened to you, and it makes sense you’d be confused over pain play and D/S, but you’re about as far off as you possibly can be.