Thank you for writing this up. This is what it is like to be a woman, every day. More stories like this need to be shared. I am sorry you were put in that situation, and sorry about the societal structures that disempowered you despite your own inner strength. Read more
I *also* judge people for buying dogs when so many need to be rescued.
Also, a rescue dog could literally be alone for 2 minutes and bark. I’ve had my boy for 5 years, and if he’s anxious, that can happen! Read more
Have you tried Dialectical Behavior Therapy? That was a good start for me toward a better approach - because CBT made me feel like shit. The poster above expressed it - I know what’s wrong. I know these feelings are wrong. But I still have them, PLUS I now feel like shit for it. DBT is a little more affirmative and… Read more
I am in a similar boat. Rather than CBT, I’ve worked with my therapist to say “here is X problem. How do I handle this?” and we walk through specific ways to respond/react, and then I can start to apply those approaches to other situations that are similar.
I have started off therapy appointments by saying to therapists “I’ve been here, done this *list of long and varied modalities* and in the end, I will tell you, 99% of the time I think I am smarter than the therapist, annoyed by what they suggest, and will try to argue back against what you suggest.”
The best… Read more
Another ethnically Magyar here with total agreement. I make chicken paprikash for all my friends, even though I don’t eat meat - because it’s so so so so good when made right (how my grandmother taught me).
Also, Duolingo has a Hungarian course that makes learning our non-Indo-european language just ever so slightly… Read more