My mom.

I MAKE EXCELLENT FRIED CHICKEN

This post made me feel emotions and I would like some food please.

My only reaction to other people’s emotions is to offer them food or weed or alcohol.

Yeah, exactly. We don’t know what to say, so instead of asking open-ended questions, we tell the person how they’re supposed to feel.

Here’s the thing. Most people mean well. They really do. They just don’t know what the fuck to say or what the fuck to do. So we make casseroles.

I think it’s the American way... A constant smile is so ingrained into what we’re supposed to be that any expression of sadness is uncomfortable or unacceptable, because nobody knows how to cope with it. So they deny it. Cheer up! It’s not so bad! You’re bringing me down, man, why can’t you just put on a smile for us?

I think a life altering tragedy always brings a loss of innocence that makes pure joy a thing of the past. It’s always mixed with a little bit of sorrow. That doesn’t mean life sucks forever afterward, but it will always be different.

“But I want Dave. I want option A.” aaaand there goes my composure. This is terribly sad. Glad to know he was so loved, but there is little else that’s good in this.

I know, I totally held it together until Option B. Heartbreaking.

I personally think the Bay Area sucks about this. I grew up on the east coast and lived in Boston for years and even those assholes are better than Californians. Especially on the highways. I’ve never been on an ambulance but I’ve definitely been pretty pissed as another driver witnessing this bullshit.

also how incredible of her to take this opportunity to educate people about grief and healing and empathy—like to be making the world a better place with her own grief... fuck.

I admittedly do not handle grief well—but this would have me running down the street weeping and pulling my own hair out and chewing on it. I…

I will remember to use “how are you today?” after reading this.

I hope she can feel pure joy again- it seems terribly unfair for that to be taken away forever.

This is so so beautifully written and expressed. The option B part had me crying. Good for her for being so strong and for being so open. It can only help.

*takes bow* (you can't gross out girl-people)

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