HINT: If someone moves away, stops responding, says “not right now”, pulls their hands away, or any other non-forwarding behavior - they don’t want it. Stop. Don’t pause, stop. Leave.

Walking away repeatedly is not the behavior of someone who wants something. Do you want ice cream? You probably don’t push it away a bunch of times and keep moving across the room. This isn’t rocket science to understand the difference between “want” behavior and compliance behavior.

No but plenty of us do check in with each other. And if the options are explicitly ask for sex OR continue to allow millions to be raped, I’ll go with option A. Hint: there’s a logical fallacy with your argument - do you know which one?

Do you want tea? If someone isn’t like “yeah, what kind of tea do you have?” you drop it. You don’t repeatedly ask them. You don’t pour tea and put it into their hand. You certainly don’t hold it up to their lips.

She said that like 10 times in 10 different ways. I don’t know about you but if someone says slow down to me, they get a check in - “hey, are you wanting this? We can just watch tv” or some other non-sex option to let them know it’s ok to say no. The first time. If someone stops or slows me more than once then we are…

How many times do you need to say no for it to count?

I wonder if Flanagan ever realized that the emphasis on fighting back in her day was because if she didn’t, she was now damaged goods. Worthless. Of course you were taught to protect your only access to safety and financial security with your life - without your virginity and “purity” you have no life.

In person conversations are also where bullying and sexual harassment and hate crimes happen. And most of that comes from people they already know, not strangers.

Because it is. Reading private conversations is an invasion of privacy. You can justify it, sure, but don’t think for a minute you’re not violating the privacy of your kid. You just happen to think they don’t deserve the privacy.

Because dudes think their ignorance is acceptable. Because it mostly is.

I’d call a movement in your industry, widely reported on, and being touted pretty hard at the event you’re attending “relevant to your life”.

THIS

Except he’s literally an actor, at a work event, doing his job. Acting, self-promotion, interviews, etc. The lights and cameras? Yeah that’s his job. He’s not a fucking farmer from Idaho.

Yeah your concern for “real” victims must be just miles wide I’m sure.

You should be embarrassed - 80+ people got the obvious joke you missed. And then doubled down on.

Well if it was past the statute of limitations and she couldn’t get justice, the next best thing is money. Just the fact they paid it sets them up for future ass whooping.

Unfortunately I don’t think that a person who doesn’t trust statistics that don’t even apply to them has the rationality to respond to even the most persuasive argument. People that hold power typically want to keep it and asking them nicely to please stop oppressing us isn’t going to get anywhere.

He’s a troll

No but I know her story about setting up spyware because of cheating is bs because she was actively seeing other men while they dated. And because she used the spyware to read years of emails in 3 people’s accounts that were completely unrelated to relationships with her boyfriend, of which there are screenshots. And…

What clearly happened is that a person who was victimized again and again wants to feel like she has control and so she’s telling herself and others a story. The idea that you can prevent your own victimization is a powerful lure but it’s deeply flawed. First, bad things happen no matter what you do sometimes in a…