I feel like you’re not giving a sentient being like Aziz enough credit for being able to read a situation. He’s a comedian. He has to be able to read a room, observations are his bread and butter. The idea that her attempt to diffuse the situation because he just didn’t get it seems lazy to me. But the idea of a…

I’m glad you were never forced or coerced into a sexual act that you didn’t want to perform. I’m sorry you were placed into a situation where you had to compromise on your comfort and safety to “get it over with” which I think is the point. Those aren’t bad dates, those are assholes that need to be culpable for their…

Stopping -momentarily- after being told she did not want sex ...and then doing the same behavior again is not stopping.

Why didn’t he just STOP? Why don’t you ask THAT question?

He thought she was totally into it. He thought, “I don’t want to feel forced” meant “try again in a few minutes.”

“He stuck his fingers down her throat” What about THAT is ok with you?

Pausing momentarily before continuing is not the same as stopping.

The only people who should be SO CERTAIN that they would say no or do the Right Thing(tm), without waiver or hesitation are people who’ve never been in that situation.

This is my perception after listening to others who’ve been in Grace’s situation. Grace doesn’t know she’s met Jekyll & Hyde yet, so when he starts acting crazy...she still thinks it’s sweet Dr. Jekyll...so she stays. She wants Dr. Jekyll to comeback.

Yeah, i’m not exactly the greatest at these subjects but when a guy has to keep begging for sex that’s already crossing a line.
Like...if she actually wanted to be with you, then why are you keeping her from going?

She should have left... but I guess so should the women Louis c.k masturbated in front of

You don’t seem like the brightest bulb. That or this is Aziz Ansari’s burner account.

Seriously, bad sex is when one or both of you is tired or distracted or when the woman gets her period in the middle of oral or when one or both of you is inexperienced and crappy at sex. This seemed like more than bad sex.

I am not being flip, but are you a man? If so, it’s likely that you may not be able to see how complicated this is for women. If you’re a woman, you are doing what a lot other women are doing: punishing Grace for not doing exactly what we THINK/WANT her to have done. The truth is, so many of us have been in her exact…

A commentator noted it below but please read on Milgram’s famous experiment. https://www.simplypsychology.org/milgram.html
None of the particpants were in danger of physical harm. All of the participants were under the impression they had to ability to kill the other subject. 65% gave out fatal doses just because they…

If you think a slender, small man is not a danger to a woman, you are completely deluded.

Why aren’t you asking “Why didn’t Aansari stop when she told him to?”

I have taught only yes means yes... do you have a child in your life? what do you teach about consent?
I have taught that she needs to be enthusastic about it. That she shouldn’t allow someone the voice of telling her what she likes and doesn’t like.

You are awesome. I hope my daughter feels confident enough in herself to leave when she’s uncomfortable or not feeling her date. I pray she feels like you.

She said she didn’t want to — She said she wasn’t into it. She didn’t want to leave because despite being creepy aggressive she may have thought the date was going well, and when he listened to her and slowed down for X amount of time she may have thought the situation was diffused — until his dick made another…