Nothing I said indicated it’s anyone’s fault. But if you want to play relationships like a zero sum game, it’s your damage.

Are you responding to the right person?

He IS living his life. What we’re discussing is whether he should be held up as an example and represent a university in sports. Kind of like if you rape someone, you get to continue living your life but no one will elect you to Senate.

It is her problem because she is affected by it. “Fix it” is not going to get her anywhere. They BOTH need to ask for what they need - she wants other types of sexual attention which she isn’t asking for, and wants less frequency. People don’t magically know what you like on bed without direction. She has apparently…

No no no no. This is terrible advice for the “spirit” lost couple and guaranteed not to resolve anything

Seriously. The number of humans who can do choreography in literally 6 inch platform heels who aren’t 20 years old has to be microscopic.

I’m sorry but no one in their right mind thinks a charity boxing match equals “beat the shit out of”. There are stretches and there at leaps and weve got a canyon down here for your next attempt.

He “fucking crushed that rotation” apparently. 🙄

And then he makes a joke about mental health. You’re a caricature, bro!

It may well be that the residents weren’t teaching him because he’s a man. Or, given his idiotic comment suggesting having a female provider preference for your OB/gyn is unfair, perhaps there were other reasons they didn’t want to teach him.

You think it’s bizarre that women, who are sexually assaulted at an astronomic rate, tend to prefer female physicians for their sexual and reproductive care? You can’t think of any reason that might be rational or necessary?

We start raising a society of men who respect women, so that women don’t have any fear about being in a vulnerable situation with a man. We start severely punishing men who abuse women, and we start believing women who report their abuse. And in the meantime, we educate and elevate women so that there are a ton of…

Maybe because he was walking around with a chip on his shoulder that women had feelings about having a male OB/gyn rather than understanding that that feeling is perfectly normal, accepting it, and working to earn their trust?

I’m not putting the blame on anyone. I’m stating that the fact that this person didn’t display any understanding of the population he supposedly wants to help is telling.

That you resent women for having a perfectly understandable preference and don’t demonstrate a shred of compassion or understanding here makes me super glad you quit.

Why do you keep saying they didn’t do anything? There were hundreds (thousands?) of people murdered at the Red Wedding. The entire dining hall and the entire army camped outside that was purposely gotten drunk and then I think a tent was collapsed on the officers in the book? In any case a whole fuckload of people…

No, he found two in 20 years. In my personal experience, you get a hell of a lot better at knowing what you want and need as you get older. It’s not inconceivable to me that if I lost my partner, I would know if an amazing human came along. Grief doesn’t inhibit you from finding love - it brings into stark relief all…

Maybe that’s because the ONE TRUE LOVE is a bullshit myth that’s only use is to keep us in relationships that don’t serve us and crush people who have normal, perfectly nice relationships that also end?

Why?

Seriously. If you do not see at least a car length after the intersection that you will fit into, you don’t go.