I think something like 80% of the population uses porn in the US. A lot of women do on their own. Our percentage of people raped and abused is pretty high, but I’d guess the majority of people use porn alone or in relationships in a non-abusive fashion. I know people who make porn, and they certainly aren’t looking to…

Well I’m not an expert but I do know a lot of sex workers who work in porn and they say that it’s no more exploitative than any other work. I used to manage a business and I learned that labor exploitation is extremely common. As is sexual harassment. Do you have any kind of basis to suggest that porn performers are…

Yeah over here the vast majority of abortions happen before 12 weeks. Someone else commented that the process of getting an abortion can take 5 weeks in the UK! Mine was a week or two after I knew and I resented every single second of delay. I can't imagine having to even get that far, or having to abort a wanted…

Especially since sex offenders aren't really that reformable.

Unfortunately most sex offenders don't get convicted even if they are arrested so I don't really feel safe in any drivers car. Part of being a woman. :(

I feel like all these stories should say “raped *at least* X women”. We know they aren’t the only ones. Sexual predators’ crimes are like cockroaches. See one and you know there are many more.

That's what I think is next. If sex is the issue then getting sex elsewhere seems like a reasonable solution, provided we can talk it through and not hurt each other too much.

So make porn that reflects your values. Trashing porn is easy. Coming up with ways to grow our understanding of sexuality isn't.

No, I’m for gun regulation, as I am for regulation in the making of porn.

Your last sentence made zero sense and do I took a stab at what it might mean. If you’d like to clarify, id be happy to respond to a sensible proposition. You didn’t make one.

See I think that men have been abusing women and that shitty, non-mutually enjoyable sex has been around a lot longer than porn. I think the problem is our society's view on sex, which I think porn is a reflection of, not a cause of. And I think that if we taught sex Ed and positive attitudes about sex the way other…

Correlation is not causation. Correlation is not causation. Correlation is not causation.

If I were to accept your unnamed, insisted studies, the fact remains: banning porn is pointless. People are addicted to alcohol and heroin and and and and we know damn well prohibition doesn’t work. Some people abuse it, just the same.

It's a business. It doesn't have a mandate to promote anything. It's a reflection of the world and tastes as they are. If you want porn to change, change the world.

Yes, bias in self-reports is a problem. That is a problem for every human reporting on their experiences.

Porn in the modern context and fucking cave paintings aren’t remotely the same thing.

I see the reflection of reality in porn. And I don’t think erasing it is going to do anything to change reality. I think reality needs to change. Porn will follow suit.

Yeah I mean I get that you’re trying to say that her perspective can be useful in some way. But Its really best talked out with a therapist who has the tools to support you while you are so vulnerable. And offenders are best studied directly - looping victims in is just not going to be approved in many circumstances I…

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Yeah, I think ANYTHING can be a trigger for an addict. And we can’t take away booze because abusers get drunk before they abuse. We do have some work done on identifying triggers and helping people who want help but as far as I know, we’ve got a lot to learn about sexual deviancy. It's not a well understood subject.