From what I’ve seen a lot of marriage survive a single affair. But then the person who cheated sees they can get away with it so... they cheat again. And then the marriage implodes.

I used this gif once before, you have made me use it again.

I had the same birth defect, albeit as a woman. This is the first time outside of medical circles I’ve ever heard of someone having this issue, so I’m actually a little excited.

Although...poor dude. I went through so much with this defect as a woman; I can’t even imagine the difficulties men face, especially ones his…

Yeah, trans guy here. I’m guessing “fully functional” is not the same as “as if he was born with it”. It sounds like a standard phalloplasty. Maybe being born a man, they may be able to take advantage of other bodily infrastructure to make it more functional than on an FTM. However, there would be some compromises I…

I swear I saw a documentary on “rebuilding penises” on Discovery Health. The horror played on as my grandparents continued to sew/read.

Again, I’m even more morose because I don’t think sexbots would do it. It wouldn’t be as satisfying to subjugate a machine.

I’m even more pessimistic than you. They want women alive, so we can provide sex and domestic services to men. And they don’t want us to have any rights or options other than that. They’re fine with us dying. In their mind a woman should die if she refuses to be some man’s sexual/domestic slave.

If your relationship is open, then adhere to the rules of engagement, and be honest.

Because we managed to solve the vast majority of childhood/infant deaths, which brought the average age waaaay down. People weren’t suddenly dropping dead in their 30’s 300 years ago. You’re perpetuating a widely believed myth.

Being in long term relationship doesn’t mean we stop becoming newly attracted to people who come into our lives. We should focus on accepting those feelings, encouraging fantasies, but channeling those feeling to investing in the stable relationships. Take that passion home to your spouse. It’s more effective to teach…

I definitely think that assumed monogamy and disdain for, and suspicion of, non-monogamous relationships are a problem that is compounded by the fear of appearing deviant. I also think that people should make an effort not to assume monogamy as though it is the universal arrangement for all relationships (just because…

This is faulty logic. Murders have always been a thing but it doesn’t mean you should do it. If you’re bored after 30 years of marriage and your partner isn’t ok with you getting tail on the side or has an expectation of monogamy, then get a divorce instead of thinking your own needs are higher than everyone else.

No, that is a failing statement.

Then you have a discussion with that person about what to do about it; change the form of the relationship, break it off, whatever. It’s not right to keep them in the dark. If you’re in a monogamous relationship with them, they have the right to know and have a say in how things will proceed. I know you’re not one of…

You tell them you want to have an affair BEFORE you do it, not after. That's fair. Then your partner can decide if they want to open the relationship with you or break up.

Then you don’t have much of a marriage to begin with and should leave before having an affair. End things cleanly. I know for a fact that my ex husband used this very same excuse with his friends before he embarked on his extramarital liaisons... I don’t think this is true, we were fairly happy, got along, and…

or you could just break up first and THEN sleep with other people, if that is the case. there is no excuse for dishonesty and betrayal.

This is where I wind up, too. In general, unless someone is being hurt within a relationship (physically, mentally), I don’t view it as my business how anyone decides to conduct their private life. I have no issue with open relationships in their many incarnations. But we’re not talking about that. We’re talking about…

This is what happens when people badly want to normalize something in order to shift guilt off themselves. Next we will hear from evolutionary psychology pundits on how it is natural for people (men) to cheat due to wanting to lay their seed in the wombs of as many women as possible.

“placed the stats on “cheating” between 26 and 75 percent, depending on how it’s defined.”