Horrifying.

Apparently he’d been running for something crazy like 20 hours straight when he collapsed. He’d been telling the producers he needed to stop and they urged him to keep going. Cardiac arrest seems plausible.

I think it’s actually a dating show where people go on a blind date by each learning their half of the choreography before they meet. 

Yeah, Nicole Kidman was estranged from her kids after divorcing Tom Cruise because she was labelled an SP. It’s pretty heartbreaking. If I were him I’d be trying not to ruffle feathers. I’m surprised he would talk about it at all.

Yeah, this is a headscratcher. A lot of people’s friends are far preferable to their blood relatives and there’s no shame in that. People should do what makes them happy.

It’s more that once someone mentions feeling suicidal, I feel I have to ask further questions to ensure they’re talking generally and not immediately, and once I did that I’m already in an anxious headspace.

I’m not from NZ, but I’m making an educated guess that their laws regarding media coverage of trials in progress are similar to Australia’s. They are threatening legal action because if the public finds out too much about the accused before sentencing, it can cause a mistrial and the murderer can walk free. In…

I feel like lately I disagree with almost every hot take Jezebel posts. I’ve been reading ~10 years. I don’t know if they’ve changed or I have. 

The suicidal text was me. The job interview didn’t take precedence, but it was more time sensitive. Suicidality is a spectrum, every moment someone feels suicidal is not a moment in which they are about to kill themselves. I’m totally open to hearing about how someone has been feeling suicidal and experience suicidal…

It’s a template. People should put it in their own words but it covered all the points people need to hit. 

You’re describing putting work into your friendships though? Not all work is a negative experience. You put effort into your friendships because they matter to you, but sometimes you don’t even notice that effort because it is a natural part of being a friend. Things like learning your friend’s likes/dislikes,…

I disagree that labor is an intrinsically capitalist concept outside of Marxist theory. In simple terms, labor = work. All human life requires work. If we had a socialist utopia, we would all still need to work to survive, we’re just distributing the fruits of that work differently. When most people say ‘labor’ they…

The script is for people who don’t know how to approach the situation, actual people who feel they need it asked her, so I don’t know why people are reacting as if she just handed down a script and mandated that people start using it.

I feel like people are reacting to the / / and not what the actual message would be.

All human relationships require work, and the people who don’t recognise that are probably letting other people do most of it.

Some of them do remember to check in and see how you are doing in return, but it’s still sometimes in a completely exhausting and inappropriate way — like, “how about you? Please open up your deep emotional wounds to me to prove our intimacy, right now, at 11am on a workday.” 

I have definitely been the emotional vampire friend in the past, and consider learning how to respect my friend’s boundaries and accept that Not Everything Is About Me one of the best things that ever happened to me. Hard talks, probably with scripts, helped me realise that.

Definitely. My view of healthy friendship in my 30s is completely different than it was in my 20s — partly because of all the EMOTIONAL WORK!!!!!! my friends and I did together throughout the years.

I think if you’ve grown up in fandom spaces you tend to encounter a lot of people like that because as a subculture, it tends to attract a lot of people who are obsessive, neurotic, and often have some social boundary issues (I know this seems like a stereotype, but I grew up in fandom spaces and as much as I love all…

Yes, the texting is a really important facet of this and a lot of people don’t put a lot of thought into the context they’re sending their distress into. I’ve gotten texts about how someone feels suicidal right before I go into a job interview. I’ve talked friends through rape trauma while I’m supposed to be on a…