It always kills me when men are shocked, shocked that women also appreciate attractive partners (presentable ones, at least) — it’s one of the reasons they want to go back to the Neanderthal days when women didn’t have their own money and couldn’t vote, because then we’d have to settle for whatever troglodyte would…

You can’t see everybody’s intentions upon first meeting/seeing them.

It’s stories like these that have made me afraid...just for a guy to like me. You just don’t know how these guys will react. Sometimes just being polite will put you in harms way. I told an 60+year old man good morning passing him in the store & held the door open for him. He said thank you & 15sec later asked me for…

Because a lot of his behavior could just be a shy, regular guy who hasn’t dated in a while and doesn’t know how to act, or he could be a real creep—there’s two possible explanations for every one of his actions.

I do think that single men of a certain age are often such because they’ve never accepted that they put a considerable amount of effort into getting to know and engaging with women they’re interested in.

I think a big part of what makes the story work as well as it does IS the ambiguity regarding the guy. Because a lot of his behavior could just be a shy, regular guy who hasn’t dated in a while and doesn’t know how to act, or he could be a real creep—there’s two possible explanations for every one of his actions. Is…

I don’t think the woman is portrayed as a victim so much as a someone who has a super uncomfortable date/bad sex with a pathetic older man whose final texts quickly escalate from ‘ I hope you’re doing well’ to ‘are you fucking that guy?’ to ‘whore’.

b-b-b-but the man is justify!

Yeah, right before lamenting how men are taught to not hit women.

Wait, did that guy mean that as a negative? So he would feel justified endangering a woman if not doing so might hurt his feelings?!?

“But we live in a world where women’s safety is more important than men’s feelings”, said like that’s a silly thing.

They should actually print this and hand it out in Congress, Alabama and in Evangelical churches. Ah fuck it, hand it out everywhere.

General rule: if something you do can be compared fairly to something Ted Bundy did, stop doing that thing.

Intelligence?

No, it’s a common theme in purity-obsessed abstinence-style programs. Women are consumables that get gross and nasty and unlovable after a single use, like chewing gum, or a chocolate bar someone licked, or a lollipop someone opened and sucked on for a bit.

Last I heard, it wasn’t acceptable to be in a room with women unless Mother was present....

And there’s no way quiverfull isn’t grooming young “breeders.”

Middle ages? You don’t have to time travel for any of this. It’s been SOP within fundamental white religions from their inception to present.

Ah yes, “purity” and “mother’s permission.” I didn’t realise we had time-traveled back to the Middle Ages, where virginity was the entirety of a woman’s worth and she was the property of her parents until sold in marriage.

YOUR MOM'S A DISNEY FILM PERHAPS