Don’t let them keep you from communicating honestly with your partner. Maybe my experience will be helpful, maybe not, but I’ll give it a shot :)

My partner suffers from, what we think is Summer onset S.A.D. (I’ve been gently pushing her to check out a therapist but don’t want to over-push so we haven’t gotten there…

Ah yes - I love the recluse Emily Dickinson trope; and then you actually study her and voila, she’s actually not at all as reclusive as everyone makes her out to be (though there was one story I read about how company would come to the house and she’d stay up in her rooms but leave out a flower and a poem for certain…

I’m curious what you think of Emily Dickinson’s work - although she did bind each of her poems into small books, and published a small portion of her poems prior to her death, most of her impressive collection was not published until after her death and from what I’ve read critics have no clear answer as to what her…

Adulting is very hard. Sometimes I just don’t want to put my laundry away and there’s no on around to make me do it (or, you know, the inverse - sometimes my partner doesn’t want to “complete the cycle” and I don’t want to be an ass).

I have a lovely little J-shaped vibe - long enough that the slightly curved tip can penetrate ever so slightly (enough to put pressure where it’s most sensitive at least) and get the clitoris in on the vibe action as well. That dual pressure/vibration is enough that at this point I can get off in just a few minutes.…

Qualifiers should be avoided in general unless you intend on expressing that you are unsure of what you are saying (so useful in those ways). This is something I usually stressed to my students in their writing - happens a lot, especially in Freshmen level classes, primarily, now that I think of it, with female…

Yeah, that does make it harder - but it would at least give her an idea of why. Or you could provide her with other examples of poor drunk behavior that wouldn’t dox your friends. Basically, rock + hard place (rock = bad friend, hard place = friends who kind of put you in an impossible situation by not wanting to be…

I know those feels - here’s to getting to that better place soon :)

That’s self-care, not necessarily ghosting (especially if you’re already broken up) - you do what you need to to be in a good place.

Totes. Like, I don’t see why ghosting an awful person is so awful.

Then again, I’m kind of an asshole so...

Haha thanks - this is my mantra (usually when I have to do something adulty like, the dishes, or making a dentist appointment).

I hope everything works out with the ex-situation - and internet stranger hugs from me :)

I had to wonder too - if you’re being repeatedly ghosted maybe it’s time to step back and objectively analyze what’s going down. Maybe it’s just picking the wrong partner, or maybe you’re sending the wrong signals.

If you’re still married, get a lawyer and sue for divorce. Once the legalities are squared away cut off contact (it doesn’t sound like staying in contact would really benefit you in anyway here).

I vote avoid - especially if, as you say, he’s going to gaslight or manipulate you. At this point it appears fairly obvious that the investment in the relationship has waned (on both sides from what I’m reading).

Alternatively, write him the email explaining yourself then block him (block his calls, set up an email…

This is one of the reasons why I have a freaking near panic-attack every time I have to fly. It’s not the actual flying, it’s the TSA bullshit you have to go through to get on the damn plane. (and it’s not like I every carry “contraband” but it still makes my nerves freak out).

I’d have to agree here - though I’ve only managed to get to that “meditative-flow” state a few times (I have a hard time achieving it in a class, too distracting). Yoga’s my favorite go-to exercise bc of it’s low impact and the ability to modify poses depending on how you’re feeling that day (I have PsA so it’s…

It’s not that surprising. I once met up with a girl who was seeing the same cheating bastard I was. Apparently the dude had so many ho’s on the side that it wasn’t clear who was the side and who wasn’t (although apparently one of them was engaged with him). I was like, nope done. She was all “eh, I’m in a…

Speaking from experience it’s not intentional, but it does seem to work out that way more often than not. I think it’s just one of those timing things (it’s actually kind of hard to do the 2 min. check when someone isn’t taking a bite, since it’s early in the meal unless something is wrong with the food - but at the…

I read this whole threat looking for more lady-lady proposals, and was kind of sad I didn’t see more but yay!!

My current lovely and I have a deal. Because I am romantically deficient (i.e. a seriously practical human), it is my “job” to propose. I haven’t done it yet because... reasons (procrastination being one of…

Oh yeah - I experienced something similar doing grad-teaching. All of the male grad student instructors could teach in tees and baseball shorts, but none of the female grad students could dare do that. The men didn’t get evals with comments about their dress, the women did (all the freaking time - “You should dress…