Think outside the box!

I’m just saying it isn’t his story if he didn’t see it/ wasn’t directly involved. You are either a witness or a gossip.

I get Rain’s point, but she took a different tack than I would have expected. Truth is- I doubt she knows everyone her father slept with, nor should she. So I don’t know why she would bother claiming it didn’t happen. The point is, it wasn’t Q’s story to tell. I mean, if he wants to say he was in an orgy & so-and-so…

Should the judge have made the suggestion in a courtroom? Probably not.

Um, I was THE Black Girl Nerd in highschool. I had zero Black friends (rejected!) after 9th grade that weren’t family or friends of family. But I never sacrificed my “Blackness” because my tongue was a sharp as a ginsu and I was known to leave fools dead on the verbal battlefield.

It isn’t hypocritical to not romanticize disability. I grew up with a totally manageable physical disability and it still was a pain in the ass that required a lot of extra energy for my mother and I to deal with.

Churches in the burbs go “mega” where I’m from & social status is strongly associated. You can’t really be successful in my hometown without the right church membership. And senior pastors? They are celebrities and pull down crazy paper.

Sorry, I think your friend’s father is the exception, rather than the rule. He is also most likely a lay pastor. Lay pastors are often members of the community with a particular passion who donate their time & may not get paid or get a little stipend. Lol, they are like activists for God. . I can respect their…

Be honest. Your ex pastor is pimping God and probably has side hustles precisely because he pimps God so good.

I’m literally your opposite. If the lyrics aren’t tight, if they don’t reach me- then nah. I mean, there is stuff that I will bop to, but I don’t buy club bangers, I want poetry.

I hear you and was in a similar situation, but I don’t regret it. I was an adult before I had a real relationship and actually fell in love with anyone. That was post 2 nervous breakdowns & being diagnosed with PTSD. I dIidn’t have consensual sex until 25. I’ve had relationships since I was in Jr high, but I never…

Imma not tryna say anything, but even in the same group, light & bright gets center stage, even if they do not have the best voice. I LOVE Bey, but I can name 10 contemporaries who are not so close to European standards of beauty, who can sing rings around her & you might not even know their names.

Come on! Pick up artists are like the court jesters of the bar scene! I’m genuinely shocked that they negatively affect adult women. I had a fool neg me so crudely that I burst out laughing. They’re like gnats, they’ll buzz around your head & annoy you, but they can’t do you any harm (unless you have a festering open…

Believe me, I have no intention of controlling my children, but I can’t see myself taking your approach either. I will be straight up & honest- that is all I can be.

Love is treated as a romantic fantasy or a magic panacea, but it isn’t.

To be honest, I don’t want my (hypothetical) teenage daughter to trust herself emotionally if that means finding herself “in love”.

Honestly, if someone hurt my kid - I would want that person dead, not in prison. But having been sexually assaulted as a child - most victims struggle to feel safe. The LAST thing they need is to lose a parent to incarceration! The guilt that child would feel would be suffocating. When parents go after abusers like…

Lol, been there, done that! For my 30th I had a Bday in a club in Vegas. I covered the booth charge & bought a bottle. The other attendees just had to buy another bottle of their choice. Mind you, my paying for a table got them free entry & them splitting a bottle charge put them at about the cover charge. SO MANY…

I like for people to be logically consistent or to explain their inconsistencies. I’m a woman who manages to be logically consistent. It isn’t hard.

Actually I don’t. Don’t try to detail discussion with backhanded insult. It is juvenile and illogical.