I'm a black mom to 3 mixed-raced, Dutch speaking, little boys and this dude... this guy right here thrills me to no end. Pure joy. Bliss. Hope for humans everywhere. May my boys be blessed to grow up with such confidence and humor in the face of so much recurring ugliness. Yet another example that it can happen. And…

Good-looking and funny. That's not fair.

He and I are currently making living arrangement plans. exciting

For the love of god, get some paramedics over to Nellie Andreeva's house, NOW! She's probably holed up in her panic room hyperventilating and mumbling about "ethnics everywhere."

For those who don't know who Trevor Noah is, a gift from his stand up. I say Comedy Central made a good choice here.

I am not equipped to handle a presidential election without Stewart and Colbert.

in my house, tequila starts a fight. I gets REAL truthy when I gets tequila'd up.

Oh I get the "you don't have to shout" thing all the time. But I do. And then she shouts back, and I say "You don't have to shout...".

It's impossible for me to win any arguments we have. My husband is ridiculously confrontation averse and will never ever ever tell me directly when something is bothering him. I don't want to bring up any problems I have because hey, he never complains about me so I must be a right bitch for complaining about him. If…

this reminds me of a time my aunt was talking about my now deceased grandmother, making her out to be a drunk, when the woman had one beer once after she got divorced, and since she was a lightweight, needed my aunt to pick her up. My grandparents didn't drink to the point no one showed up to my aunts graduation party…

It wasn't just a parent-child thing. My mother normally didn't challenge my father much either. However, she wanted my father to go south with her for a week every winter, because he needed the break as much as she needed the sun, and one year he refused. So she went by herself and when she got back she enjoyed…

I hate the "tone" argument because I do not know how I sound. I mean, I fundamentally don't. I have a sensory processing disorder that means that I can't really tell the tone of volume of my voice. Like, I have to go by the pressure in my throat to try and tell volume because me ears here it all pretty much the same.

Fiancé and I approach things the same way, we both absolutely hate fighting and he in particular does his best to hash things out without much drama. The first really big fight we had was soon after we bought our house and moved in together. He was annoyed because he didn't feel I was doing my fair share of housework.…

My partner does this, too. It used to make me even angrier because I thought he was just shutting down or ignoring me, but he's thinking. If I pressure him too much, he says, "I don't know what to say." It's really frustrating sometimes because I know for a fact he's thinking *something* and I wish he would just…

I think you're onto something. I also think he just doesn't like hashing things out verbally. He mulls things over himself, which kinda drives me crazy because I'm such a nosy parker.

Is it possible he didn't really know it at the time? Men in general lean toward lesser awareness of their moods (ie that they even have them) and their root causes.

My husband and I must be masters at this, but we always argue with the assumption that the other person might be right, and we might be remembering things incorrectly. It's amazing how quickly things can be resolved when you manage to give just that little bit of ground.

The point of oral sex in hetero pairings, as far as I'm concerned, is to fully prep the genitals for vaginal sex. Dudes can get hard by all manner of things that don't involve my getting cricks in my neck. Blowjobs are a bonus for when I'm feeling generous.

Right? 'Oh no guys! I looked at the world's blowjob inventory and there are missing blowjobs! We counted them all! A few are missing. Why isn't this cat lady coming up with the missing blowjobs?!"