As a retired nurse I can 100% back your certainty on what pains in the asses the adult children of elderly patients are. Many a nurse has also had the “your parent is an adult” talk with said children.

Watched a cat fight between two ladies over one man that involved one of them yanking off her leg to beat the other’s “pug ugly mug” in with.

That's the most difficult thing about dealing with elderly parents. You want to protect them and make sure they're not taken advantage of, but you also have to respect their decisions because they are still, barring dementia, capable adults-maybe a little slower or a little sicker, but they still have a right to…

I watched a nurse try to delicately explain that the lady’s mother had injured herself while “visiting” her boyfriend. The lady was angry that mom was up past 9 pm so we knew the whole thing was going to be hysterical. After not understanding and asking questions about 5 different times the nurse sighed and said “Look…

Having worked as a nursing supervisor in a nursing home, and as the wife of a nursing home clinical director, I can tell you with great certainty that adult children of nursing home residents are quite often pains in the ass who treat their parents like children. I cannot even begin to count the number of times my…

I have used “ration” for “ratio” at least 3 times in as many days. WTF is wrong with me???

I think you wanted VJ Day there, old timer.

Right? My parents had sexual relations exactly three times. In order to procreate.

God help me, getting old doesn't scare me half as much as the prospect of reliving high school drama at 90.

my stepfather’s dad was always asking us to bring the dogs to visit him... not because he cared about the pups but because they were “chick magnets.” Seriously, before he went into the home, he was like “dog, go away!” (he never used names... my mom was That Woman, I was The Girl, my brother The Boy... and I’m not…

This seems like as good a reason as any to try and stay healthy. After all, if I outlive my wife, it won’t be cheating.

I stopped in just to add the same kind of comment! With so few old men compared to the numbers of old women, things get dicey and competitive. When my poor old gramps was nearing the end of his life he had more than one old lady making eyes at him. They didn’t care that he had dementia and always forgot to put in his…

Since the women greatly outnumber the men at nursing homes, you’d think the sex shops would try to make a few bucks selling to the ladies that are not partnered up, but still feeling those feelings, ya know?

My grandfather was immediately set upon by the ladies when he got to the nursing home. Thison lady would come by to flirt while his wife wss visiting.

My aunt lived in an “active senior” community and said it was like high school - many women vying for the attentions of only a few men, none of whom were actually worth vying for.

I like that they’re careful about consent, yet recognize that people with even quite significant impairments are in fact often still able to give it willingly. That is really nice and I think it should be a model for other facilities.

I have a friend who works at an assisted living and she told me that STDs and UTIs run rampant and that Viagra use is common. And the male to female ration makes for a lot of romantic rivalries for the men’s affection.

I really dislike how the elderly are often infantilized. My grandma lived through the great depression, major wars, the sexual revolution, and so much else. Yet her nursing home’s sing alongs were always hymns and stuff. That shit wasn’t coming out of her radio when she lived on her own.

Yes to the condoms. You might not be able to get pregnant but an STD that's been brewing since V Day is no joke.

It may be different in other places, but I like how this can also address a larger issue about agency - people in nursing homes are still people and still capable of making decisions about their own life. I hope they’re also giving out condoms and safe sex talks!