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Thank you for the support from afar. It's nice to be reminded that the feeling is temporary and his decision to end things childishly doesn't reflect on me. :) Today is a little better than Tuesday. Thanks again, kind stranger!

I cannot hear the name "Buckley" in anything except Brittany Murphy's voice, doing Luanne Platter.

I...hmm. I really like the first part of this comment, specifically "They could not possibly be so innocent that they did not understand the meaning of a middle age man flying all the way across the country to ask their daughter to fly away with him." We're agreed 100000000000%.

Something being legal doesn't mean it's not creepy.

Taking a child to museums and concerts can be a lovely form of mentoring and spending time with a young person whilst introducing them to the cultural world. Or, it can be grooming, or (I think) 'dating' in the eyes of the predator.

"though I dismissed it as the kind of thing that seemed to happen any time middle-aged men got around young women,"

I saw a documentary she made about herself on Netflix and, basically, her family was FUCKED. UP.

NO SITA WECANNOT CUT KIDS SLACK. BACK IN MY DAY MY MOTHER BEAT ME WITH STICKS FOR CRYING ABOUT ANYTHING BESIDES THE ACTUAL END OF THW WORLD

I know! That's what makes me upset about this. But there's a weird power dynamic at play, and when he says something awkward he goes into this awkward backslide and then it gets even worse. Bless him, but he doesn't really know how to talk to women. And I just wanted to get down to business and have things be comfy.

oh man i should've never posted this whole thing bc now i've got judgemental internet randos telling me just how spoilt my niece & how she should get perspective & how my sister is a bad parent. Jesus.

Seriously - the wedding, the pregnancy - I hate when people act like they're the ONLY ones in the world who are doing it. Like yeah your day is special to you (and maybe a handful of other people) but like... Relax. My husband's family planned out entire wedding and I literally just showed up the day of and was like

my niece is crying so hard her mom is letting her skip school tomorrow

I did! We "hired" the high school marching band (20ish kids) for a pittance - in fact, the band leader was willing to do it for free so my parents made a $300 donation to their travel fund and I gave each kid a $10 tip as a thank you. It was so cool.

DUDE, YES. People were SHOCKED when I said I wasn't doing a "walk down the aisle" thing and immediately assume there was some problem with my dad (who is and always has been one of my favorite people in the entire world and my #1 supporter, along with my mom) - I would warn them that they didn't want to hear my take

My motto in the weeks leading up to my wedding: "IF AT THE END OF THE DAY WE ARE MARRIED, THEN EVERYTHING HAPPENED PERFECTLY." That's it. I repeated that mantra internally and aloud to all the people who seem hellbent* on working the bride into a frenzy.

We all need the reminder, for sure. My wedding had a lot of cock-ups. Everyone was worried I'd freak out. I said, "Is my groom here? Do I look pretty? Yes? Then the rest is gravy and we'll have a kick ass party no matter what. Let's do this."

Actually, you shouldn't, because that shirt's really offensive to us Hindus - having one of our gods associated with the phrase "NAMASTE BITCHES" is just tasteless. Plus, Namaste is half of a customary Hindu greeting (the other half is the joining of hands and bowing), which means "I bow to the divine in you". That

"Full Waiting to Exhale" is not taking a bunch of lit matches and feebly tossing them one at a time, it is getting lighter fluid and burning that car down with a lit cigarette, Bernadine. I get that the yoga studio was evacuated, but was there even an actual fire? Stupid hippie.

SOME RAGRETS. NAMASTE

"Even as I'm walking out the door, he kept trying to put his hands on me, and I was like, 'No!'"