And invest in something that really gets the job done, like a Lelo or a Hitachi. No need to waste your dough on joke-shop vibrators that break, run through batteries, and embarrass you in front of sexytime friends.

Oh, man, I wish. My sometime Gentleman Caller is a manager and has to wear suit-adjacent outfits at work, but the rest of the time he dresses mostly like a slob. Actually it's been getting better lately: nicer long sleeved shirts, and he's mostly gotten rid of the ripped jeans and stained t-shirts. But who am I…

Your second line made me laugh out loud. My parrot is looking at me funny.

The cop sounds like one of the really good one! Also I *love* this story.

YASSSSSS. Thank you! I was just thinking of The Hems, but New Captain Kirk would really be the icing on the hottie cake.

And you were very gracious not to call me out for... ugh... dropping the f-bomb, which I'm sorry about. The day just got better for reading your last couple posts. :-)

You know what, I've been trying to unpack just why that made me so angry, and the best I can come up with is the fact that it was written while I was waiting for my nurse who was a freakin' hour and a half late. I could have slept in! Or watched SNL! So that, plus the word choice, HULK SMASH. But your apology is both…

I did not dismiss the question, I said it was a leap. This is based on (as Lilly as repeated til she is blue in the fingers) what the woman said in the interview. He might not be thrilled with it, but he set the ground rules and she sticks to them. And as has also been pointed out, "don't ask don't tell" is actually a…

Pompous?? You find that pompous?? I very, very, very rarely resort to this- okay, never, this is the first time in the Gawkerverse- but go fuck yourself. I know what it's like to have a shitty chronic illness and the choices it necessitates. Am guessing you are not in this position. In THIS case I perhaps have…

Not necessarily. She sounds pretty self-aware, and ready to take the heat. If it wasn't working out she might still have had the interview as a cautionary tale.

The thing about open relationships is, if it's known and agreed upon then it's *not cheating*. Yes, she cheated first. Then he found out, and they decided on ground rules that worked for them. It's a great big leap to suggest that he's being oppressed by this arrangement. You might well disagree, but I've both lived…

I must respectfully disagree. I don't think their situation is worse in the slightest. Yes, she did a crap thing by cheating first, but then they worked things out. They love each other, they're together, she's getting her needs met on a casual basis that's respectful of his ground rules. He's got his wife and…

Which would be worse for him, though? Feeling bad about being unable to perform and seeing her suffer because of it? Or feeling bad, ditto, but knowing that at least she's getting the pressure relieved so she's happy, and able to be the best wife and caretaker? I vote for the former.

Hail from a fellow grey... my replies are black only when recommended by the right kind of commenters. ;-)

It seems a lot of commenters find it easier to judge her forever than to accept the nuanced reality of her situation, as you have. She cheated, it was shitty, they figured a way to make things work, and life continues. You're right.

Starred for stylish deployment of STEFON. Love!

There's a possibility that this does make the relationship better for him in a way. There can be a lot of guilt involved when a person is unable to offer their partner a very basic satisfaction: that's a pressure that can only have added to his burden. Now that pressure is relieved somewhat, as he knows she's getting…

I'm guessing you're joking. Many great artists have left behind only great works, no children. Men and women both.

Thanks. :-)

I didn't recommend it. I just said I thought you'd like it.