Well, I can tell you it certainly wasn't the best thing for me! Going through something like this alone is even crappier than you'd imagine. It's also very disappointing to find out that someone you really counted on, and loved through thick and thin, is just not as strong as you'd believed. But he did what he had to…

How about you do your own Googling?

Not saying I don't see your point, because I seriously do, and I like suffersfoolsgladly. Still think it was a crass conclusion, is all.

I suspect you'd like it.

I can absolutely see your point of view. I just feel that life is not as black and white as we would like it to be- sure would make things easier if it was. And, nobody really knows what goes on in a relationship except the people actually in it (and then, sometimes not so much). It's my opinion that this woman was…

Wow. Considering how little you know of this woman's life, I'd call that an incredibly shitty thing to say.

You're a fan of the book Sex At Dawn, aren't you? Just guessing!

The key difference is that you would not be cool with it. That doesn't mean that he's not. What works for them clearly does not work for you, and that's okay. What's not okay is to judge people for making other choices than you would in the same position. And I say that as a critically ill person who was left by a…

The kink isn't necessarily sexual in nature. Example: if her husband wanted her to take a dump on his chest. Not something she's comfortable doing, but not really anything to do with her desire to have sex with him.

Miss Cleo, is that you?

There are a lot of men who very emphatically choose to never procreate, does that count?

Disagree. Middle age begins when reading glasses happen, and all hope of being carded at a club is lost. Mid-thirties is the prime of life.

I was watching this thread with bated breath, seeing what looked like a downward spiral between two commenters I like and respect. But you and Lilly, you guys! You figured it out and for some reason, this is kind of making my day. Thank you both.

I see it a different way. He is unable to have sex, and knows that his wife and caretaker is happy getting her needs met on term that work for them both. He doesn't have to suffer the guilt of making his partner miserable by being unable to satisfy her physically. My take on her phrasing is that this is a Bandaid for…

I'm not convinced that her character would wear a corset in the 1920s.

I feel the same about high heels. They *always* hurt, but a properly-fit corset does not (in my experience). I hate that women are conditioned to think they have to wear pinchy shoes that can permanently damage the feet, shorten the Achilles tendon, and make the posture do weird things.

Starred for "baby-stargate"! YASSSS.

Yes, indeedy. This story is ringing all the bells for me. Last year I finally decided to leave a marriage that was getting increasingly awful, and the next day was handed a cancer diagnosis. I left anyway. And let me tell you, living alone while going through chemo and multiple surgeries and not-awesome complications…

"Safe to say" fits the chatty and informal tone of the article. "Suffice to say" would be a bit stiff in this context. (In my opinion, obviously.)

Holy crap! If it made *your* blood boil, imagine how shitty it was for his four actual kids!What a heartless thing for a father to say in a national interview.