Sorry, no. She said exactly what she said, and has been re-saying it endlessly ever since, to people who misquote and misrepresent her words. And you are doing the same to me right now. I never said that the couple should not have sent this "invitation". I simply agree that it was not the only way to handle their…

TheWhiteBorpo has been unfailingly polite here, and has explained their position very well, and yet is being insulted and disrespected at every turn. Just because you disagree with her take, doesn't mean that her sentiments are "shitty." What is wrong with people that disagreement is worthy of abusive language?

I was, and yet I agree with TheWhiteBorpo.

A gentle voice of dissent. I did grow up with a narcissistic parent- one who was not at my wedding, who has never met any of his grandchildren, who sustains a personal belief that his adult children are losers and he never wanted kids anyway and thus his personal choice to pretend we don't exist is a good one. And…

This was so eloquent and beautifully written. Also, as someone with a father who has long been absent, my heart goes out to you.

I'm with you. You're pointing out that this was not the only way to handle it, and that no matter how bad those parents were, the moment of cathartic triumph is not necessarily the best solution. And for that you're getting gravely insulted.

You and me both, pal. If being a tall skinny white lady with blue eyes and long blonde hair is *always* a leg-up, which it seems to be, then sign me up for the "quirky cutie" aisle.

You're going to come in with a claim like that and no citation?

Not a parent myself, but I've known some really chill 6 year olds, so I believe you.

Agreed- when a major athlete on the cover of SI takes a "I'm pulling down my shorts to show you my ween" pose, then we'll have parity. And I might buy that issue.

If only you had been so eloquent in your initial comment.

Oh lordy, and Sarah Palin. *HERK*

Those little bees- so Napoleanic! Fitting, given the empire she's amassed. Also, this pic of them is just adorable.

Adultosaurus, our e.e.cummings-style poet laureate. :-)

And once again, this is an entirely different point than I made. Youthful fertility is prized in all human cultures since the dawn of time. This you cannot argue. The media-driven bla bla you're bringing up is a whole separate debate that has zero to do with my original point.

Um, where in the world did I say anything about blue-eyed blondes in tacky shoes? My point was solely that we're wired to find fertility appealing, end of comment. I didn't come here to argue about porn and marketing, and if you did, go pick fights elsewhere. I am not fucking interested in any bullshit today, thank…

Aw, thank you. I can't even begin to tell you how much that cheers me up!

So, this is my first solo V-Day in 16 years; my marriage ended in the spring, the night before I found out I have cancer. I've been through all the chemo and four surgeries so far and I until all this went down, I had no idea just how much of a badass I really am.

Ding ding ding! We have a winner.

Our bodies already possess the means to rid ourselves of "toxins"- that would be the liver and kidneys. Anything left behind is likely to be along the lines of a heavy metal, and those aren't generally found in even the most GMO-y of foods. "Toxins" is an idiotcakes-buzzword that earns my automatic side-eye.