You hit the nail on the head.

It’s kind of hilarious that someone goes to such desparate lenghts to defnd cheating on one’s partner. And then she has the nerve to say, well don’t question a cheater’s character, because it’s all complicated.

“It’s not a microphone!”

Sweetheart, if you want to defend a selfish asshole breaking the trust of their partner, have at it. That’s a choice sword to fall on. I’m sure it will treat you really well.

Sooooo....that makes no sense since as I’ve known some to have cheated multiple times. So they’ll tell me when they do it more than once but not just once? Yeah, sound logic there.

Nobody is responsible for cheating except the person who cheats. That doesn’t mean it’s not stupid for a cheatee to throw away an otherwise good relationship because of an infidelity, depending on the details of the situation.

I’m not sure you understand how relationships work, because once one party starts lying to the other, or breaks a mutual agreement (like being monogomous), it literally can no longer be considered happy, healthy, or committed.

Admit monogamy isn’t for them isn’t a true statement when the person has admitted being a serial cheater? Please. That also has nothing to do with the number of sexual partners, so I have no idea where you pulled that from.

My husband’s brain is a cross between a wonderland, a dollhouse, and random mangas churning around. I have no idea how shit forms in his head but he just now ran out to tell me all about how he came up with the idea of a pirate with two wooden legs called “Ol’ lumber legs” and that’s why I married him.

I admit I am a bit sensitive to this. My father abandoned my mother for another women when my mother found out she had cancer. He literally left her after 35+ years with a letter on the table. I agree with certain things you are saying but disagree with others. Lets just agree that many cheaters are fundamentally…

I agree and both disagree with you. At my age, 44, you are who you are. Most of my friends are my age and older. If at 44 you haven’t figured out not to fuck over others, you never will. I would give tons of concessions to a 20 something year olds however.

That is what I said in one of my responses. A drunken one night thing might be forgivable for me but an affair would not. Intent is the same in both.....get laid. The level of deception and gaslighting however is waaaay worse with the second. To me, if he came home and said he drunkingly had sex with some random at a…

I have and frankly the ones that minimize and push the reason they cheated off on their partners are the ones I cut out of my life. That is a larger sign of their personality and inability of owning their shit. The ones who took the steps to fix themselves and took total responsibility are my friends. I have a kind…

I see it differently. It isn’t a lapse in judgment. Okay, drunk at a bar and such, maybe. Maybe. An affair? No. That is calculated and planned. No way on Earth I would stay. I don’t view cheaters like I do other people, the main reason why is they only think of themselves and what is convenient. They are willing to…

You want me to read a book to see if my relationship is martial material?!

I think it would depend on the circumstance. Infidelity for me is a hard line, no. It involves tons of deception, lying, risking my health, using family resources. Yeah, done. That shows to me the character of the person.

I disagree. Words have meaning. Commitments mean something. If someone doesn’t want, or isn’t capable of having a monogamous relationship, that’s fine. Open relationships are a thing. But if you’ve committed to a monogamous relationship then your partner has every reason to expect you to adhere to that commitment, and…

Sabotaging it because it is too serious and they don’t WANT serious, I get. Sabotaging it because they are too much in love—TOO MUCH IN LOVE, I TELL YOU!—yeah, no. That’s a line.

I suppose this article was supposed to make me like Brooke more, but that whole, “I cheat because I’m scared of my crazy-strong love feelings for you” is complete bullshit.

....it is no coincidence that Valentine’s Day is remembered as the day of a horrific massacre....