From what I’ve read by her and about her her general take is that anyone who gets upset about cheating is a prissy panted prude and should just get more evolved.

Completely agree. I divorced my husband due to his cheating and I can honestly say I can’t imagine a worse way to end things. Instead of having a serious talk about what the future should look like for us, either together or separately, our marriage and family was blown up overnight. It was absolute destruction and…

Actually people don’t live much longer. On average life expectancy is only 3-5 years longer than it was about 100 years ago.

I always thought it was something a longterm couple could ride out. Then it happened to me and you cannot imagine how your mind might change when faced with reality rather than theory. It’s a total mindfuck, particularly if you’ve been in a long and successful marriage. Everyone is different, though, so you won’t know…

Actually, people aren’t living all that much longer than they were, say, 100 years ago. A quick bit of googling says that on average people are living 3-5 years longer, which is basically a statistic blip.

Also cowardly as fuck. Sometimes in life you have to have difficult conversations. Adults understand this and while we don’t enjoy them we bite the bullet and we have them. Having an affair because you feel disconnected (and guess what, your spouse probably does as well but probably isn’t screwing around to fill that…

I hate this talk and I think this woman is a quack. Ugh. She’s gross.

She had a child and is now compounding the pain her husband is going through by fucking around on him. What a gal.

Disagree. When a person knowingly has an affair with a married/committed person then they are partly responsible for any future pain, destruction, etc. Because it’s rare that it ‘just happens’. An affair is a series of choices. It’s not like you just fall onto someone’s genitals one day by accident.

From what I’ve seen a lot of marriage survive a single affair. But then the person who cheated sees they can get away with it so... they cheat again. And then the marriage implodes.

Monogamy is a choice, and most people who practice it take that choice seriously (as in, they consider seriously what it means before agreeing to it). As a choice, it’s not morally superior to polyamory, for instance, but it’s also not morally inferior. Most monogamists are just people trying to make their…

Why wouldn’t you want to know? I didn’t know my husband was cheating and as a result wasted years of my life being with someone who wasn’t faithful. When I found out and divorced him it was horrible to look back and realise that I could have gotten on with my new life so much earlier had he just been honest. But then,…

Then leave. It’s not that hard. If you’ve got the energy to screw around then you’ve got the energy to visit a divorce lawyer. It’s laziness and cowardliness to have an affair because generally it’s a way of getting out (Opps! You got caught and now that bitch is going to take you to the cleaners!) without doing the…

Couldn’t agree more. The fact is that if you’re in a relationship that is based on monogamy and you cheat you’re not just breaking trust, you’re putting another person’s physical, financial and emotional health on the line. You’re making unilateral decisions that will have a huge impact not just on your spouse but…

Bloody hell, not Esther Perel - she’s an idiot who seemingly lives to promote the idea that monogamy is for the birds. Or the zoo animals, as it were. Great take on her here: http://www.chumplady.com/2014/11/esther…

That made me laugh because Michael K at dlisted always calls her The Slow One. Can’t wait for his take on this cover. It should be legendary.

Good on her for bringing attention to the Slut Walks but it’s time to retire the Kanye stuff.

If they came across one and had questions, sure. But making a point of it, no. My kids, during their younger years, found all sorts of odd things and if they asked I gave age-appropriate answers that were easy for them to digest but other than that, let it happen naturally. I never censored myself all that much but I…

My kids spent much of their childhoods seeing me naked and now that they’re teens? They are completely, ‘Cover it up!’. You can’t fight teenaged disgust of their parents.

I agree with you on principle but reality of raising two kids tells me different. Up to a certain age those fuckers will barge in anywhere. So shower with them, get them involved in something long enough to take a shit (it won’t work out but you’ll get the major business out of the way before they come a-knockin’) and…