(Ehm, forgot to add "in the civilian population." Men comprise the vast, vast majority of rape victims in prisons. www (dot) justdetention (dot) org is the place to be if you're interested in helping prisoners keep their rights and fight these injustices for the incarcerated.)

Correct. Unfortunately, the DOJ and CDC have no statistics on individuals who are forced to penetrate, so we have no idea how many be-penised individuals are raped yearly. Other violence stats from the CDC, however, show that in most categories of domestic and acquaintance assault (which includes most rapes), the # of…

(I exclude the C-suite people because very few folks in a typical corporation communicate with them, but I worked for one huge business and my clients have included multiple Fortune 500s, and my experience is that male and female executives use predominantly hard refusals when negotiating.)

Good point. Another issue I have with framing rape as consent is that the "soft no" that's so frequently used to blame women for not "making consent clear enough" is ALWAYS framed as a female-specific verbal style, when it is NOT. Go to any business and you'll see any man who is lower than the C-suite folks using…

I wish that were true, but manufacturing in the US has no resemblance to what it looked like in the 60s. My husband and I escaped a bombed-out manufacturing town in the Midwest. The manufacturing jobs around there start at the minimum wage of $7 and change. "Well-paying job" is $12/hour. Most of these jobs are on…

Another thing that's not feminist? Is policing other women's friendships and telling them what types of friendships to have. The flipside of the much-maligned "I don't make friends with women...eeeew" is the all-too-prevalent "All women without female friends are inherently untrustworthy traitors to the sisterhood."…

Oh yeah. She's not ghost of MY future. If my husband's vasectomy fails and they overturn Roe AND New York goes red and I can somehow conceive without miscarrying past the first month, I'll fly out to Europe to make sure she's still not the ghost of my future.

"these antagonistic feelings about new parents persist."

Hey, another chica in tech who's LGBT. What's up? Yes, I agree that men share feelings more, especially with me, for some reason. I wonder if it's because they've been socialized to hold it all in when they're around fellow men, lest they be deemed "un-masculine." That pressure is terrible. I've seen my (also LGBT,…

This article has some good points, as well as some points I don't agree with. While I'm not a gamer, I have observed a number of misogynists acting similarly on forums. They troll threads about women's issues, call us murderers for daring to want bodily integrity and agency, throw around words like "bitch" and "c*nt"…

I hate the special princess syndrome too, but as others have said, I see it generally coming from angry conservative women who hate men, hate sex, and above all, want to punish women who enjoy sex and men (because if we exist, it means that their objects of affection don't have to put up with their BS). These are the…

Real feminism happens when we stop judging women for their reproductive and parenting decisions, including the choice not to engage in them at all, and acknowledge the right of the individual woman to make the decisions that are best for her and her family (which can include a family of two).

It's funny, I found some old Merry-Go-Round ads in a bunch of early 90s SPIN Magazines. The men's fashions back then were off the hook.

Me too. DEB and Contempo Casuals were the shit. And Merry-Go-Round. Anyone remember that store?

When I was in college, I also dated a Republican. Your late teens and early 20s are a time to find out who you are and what your beliefs are. Ryan's pandering makes me sick. If he actually cared about any minority – especially black women, who in my city, are the poorest blacks in the COUNTRY – he would endorse…

This sounds suspiciously similar to the backlash chronicled so perfectly by Susan Faludi in 1991. Actually, thinking back to when I was browsing some "vintage" books on gender relations from the early 70s, it looks like the whole "women make a bit of progress, men complain that they're being oppressed and ground into…

Thanks so much. : ) I'm glad everyone interested in these issues has a place to gather and discuss them.

I totally agree re: your first paragraph. It's pretty interesting to track user engagement w/ different types of content, etc. and see that phenomenon. I took it into account when planning the direction of the blogs I'm launching...one will be serious, boring, safe for work, and data-riffic, and the other will be…

It's a slang term for a woman who has been taken off of the track for promotions and raises at work after having children, despite asserting a desire to continue progressing in her career (excluding women who dial down their careers by choice). My understanding is that it's not as prevalent on the coasts;…

p.s. Ms. West is not a hateful cretin at all, just so I'm clear. I'm cool with her work. But anyone who denies HIV/AIDS and has contributed to the 15% rise in infection rates PER YEAR in women, compared to the 1% rise in new cases per year in men, like Celia Farber, has blood on HER hands. In 1993, she mocked the idea…