What is happening here with this jacket? What is up with these red buttons? Oh, the shapelessness! I'm all for rumpled, but Orlando, honey, PLEASE go have a chat with your stylist about this. You can do better. At least when Benedict Cumberbatch dresses himself and looks goofy, he still looks charming.

What do you mean, WAS?

Clearly, your write-ups on these tips is the only possible reason for the list to have been created in the first place.

Yeah, never mind. Fuck off.

No kidding

I was gonna go with, "Because you're a butt-face" but have decided that you're not being trolly, and will answer thusly: Because this kind of list is indicative of the proprietary attitude men have towards women. Even, sometimes, men who claim to be feminists, as this guy seems to do. This may be an extreme case,…

Always a good time. For some reason, the Bots just don't enjoy them as much any more...

I cannot love this enough. I do a totally ballin' reading of that book. Also, Snuggle Puppy.

leaving our home isn't the answer anyway. Calling out the bullshit, which is what you are doing here, and working to improve the system and raising our children to know better is the answer. Sadly, those measures take time. What people tend to forget is that in terms of country years, America is still a baby. And…

Trust me. I lived with an emotionally and sexually abusive addict for over 15 years. He was fully aware of what his issues were. He was fully aware of how much his actions hurt those around them. He was also able to feign very convincing remorse and penitence. It was never real.

I totally should have just listened to it, not watched. They're babies!

if you've ever heard anyone who spent years in therapy talk about themselves, being able to rattle off an astute laundry list of their "issues" with mad insight is a world apart from changing, trying to change, being able to change, or even being sorta tolerable in a relationship. Puhlease.

Yeah, the only one that shows up is the one to ghostboobs. Which, as honest as your apology looks, doesn't particularly help your case. I love ghostboobs; she's one of my favorite online people, and her response to you was pretty spot on. But it was in no way well-reasoned or civil. There were others who wrote…

gotcha. I'm lucky that, for the most part, I'm surrounded by people who don't have contact with him. But I'm sure there are plenty of people who know just what a massive unforgiving cunt I truly am.

And yet, amazingly, your only response and apology was to the one person who responded to you with vitriol.

We shouldn't have to prove it. And we shouldn't have to wait for that particular kind of breaking of the marriage vows in order to be "justified" for leaving. I had lawyers tell me that I shouldn't leave, I should try to make him leave, because I would be "abandoning the union" and could lose my kids. TO A DRUG…

Ah, yes. I am QUITE familiar with that line of thinking. But I could never quite bring myself to fight back enough to deliberately say/do things that thought might incite it.

Exactly. I'm still accused of giving up. And he didn't REALLY cheat, since it was just cybersex and extremely romantic and sexual conversations on facebook. Because no, that's not really cheating. *eyeroll*

No. If they're anyone. The fact that it's a conversation started by pictures depicting domestic violence on women does not mean that this particular conversation about emotional abuse does not include men. In fact, you'll notice that I said "US" not "WOMEN." And the OP's comment did not denote gender in any way,…