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I actually love each of them individually and as a group, but I had to

A.k.a., "Eau de Deadspin:"

I think under 45 is reasonable for most women.

Yoga Nerd - as someone who's seen some things - in your opinion, what do you think is the oldest a woman can be (on average), and still be relatively sure of producing a healthy child straight-up biologically, ie, w/o IVF etc. (assuming both parties are healthy & fertile)

It's something I wonder about from time to

My wife has said that she really wishes more people could see what running a code is like so they'd understand why DNR/DNI is so important for so many cases.

My mother was 44 when she had me, and while she always loved to talk about how young it made her feel, the fact remained that, as I became a teenager, she was already at retirement age. By the time I was ready for college, she was still working 40 hours a week to support me, and even though she was in very good

Yeah. It's why I made the opposite decision when I got knocked up at 47 (WTF?!). Policy specifically excluded maternity, and I'm 90 minutes from the nearest NICU, and the idea of dealing with toddler meltdowns in my 50s, and paying for college in my late 60s, and orphaning some kid ... I just couldn't.

Cool for her, her kids will be taken care of. As a person who just lost both of her older parents 18 months apart at the ripe "ol'" age of 34 I can pretty much say it's super shitty to have to deal with that kind of loss and burden earlier than you expect. Yes, people lose their parents earlier, but I feel a little

Theoretically, you would freeze your eggs when you are young and fertile and then have them implanted later on when you are ready to have a child (this will happen more often as wealthy women decide to preventively freeze eggs just in case). So you're giving birth to 25 year old eggs from a 40 year old body, which

Not to mention the rates of extreme prematurity and severe complications, NICU admissions......go ahead and google image search "extreme prematurity" and then imagine running a code on a 500g infant for a hour while their ribs break from chest compressions before you call it.

I am sure the latter part of that sentence went something like: "...conception is challenging and requires medical intervention, there are higher risks associated with our pregnancies, we are not as physically capable and we may not live to meet our grandchildren." Having kids when we're older is possible, but this

That's why I dislike stories like this. I mean, it's amazing for her but it gives other women unrealistic expectations. Conceiving naturally at 50 is highly unlikely (and she's open about the fact that she used IVF). Depending on where you are, IVF is often $10-30,000 or more, depending on the meds you need, etc. And

The problem with having kids so late, regardless of your gender, that your health will start to fail right around the time your kid is in college or gaining their career footing and they'll likely have to derail their education or professional ambitions to take care you.

Yes, this should kind of have a "DO NOT TRY THIS IF YOU ARE NOT RICH" type of disclaimer.

Cool. Now let's see a profile on a single mother and her experiences who is not a multi-millionaire.

Presenting Raven Symoné for comparison

I agree. I'm a medium-to-light toned black woman and I have white-blonde bleached hair. I also have that super-short Lupita cut. I think if my hair was straight and long, it would not look good at all.

The 6th-century Byzantine historian Procopius wrote that the Vandals were tall and blond haired: "For they all have white bodies and fair hair, and are tall and handsome to look upon."

The turtleneck is making this WAY worse.

Silver Lights + Silver Brights de-brassing shampoo & conditioner will do wonders to make it proper platinum.