@cinnatron: Totally true. And though I'm part of that 10% increase (divorced the year after Katrina) it's b/c my ex husband went fucking nuts. (Given that his parents house was destroyed and his job prospects tanked, it's easy to see how Katrina contributed to that- although it don't excuse his behavior.)

I am a deep believer in Murphy's Law, myself.

@Pennyfeather: Similarly, lose the guy who only gives a token amount of foreplay, then dumps lube on you because *he's* ready, whether or not you are.

@ElviraGooch: As for how to treat a lady if it's her first time- go very very slowly, lots of foreplay, and any time she says "stop" and I mean *any* time, immediately stop.

@ElviraGooch: Dan Savage has good advice. [www.nerve.com]

@SubhujaFenelon: It took me a couple months for it to be pain-free. For a while it hurt at the beginning (but got better as things progressed) and I'd be sore after.

Another thing I just remembered. While sex after the first time didn't hurt as much as the first time, the next dozen or so times still kind of hurt for me. The initial penetration would hurt a little, then once I got into it it felt great, but afterward I'd have some soreness. Nothing unbearable, but not something I…

My tip: You don't have to do it until he climaxes the first time. I found myself getting kind of tired down there, so we stopped and it was great. The second time, we went until he finished, but it was nice to not feel pressured to do it any longer than I wanted to the first time.

@Peppermint: 1. No.

@mcpumpkin: The stripey one or the purple one in the video? Because the latter is MINE! :)

For what it's worth, when I saw the Pot Psychology Video, I remember thinking a) that I miss those videos and that b) you look beautiful, Tracy!

Gimmick free and Paul Rudd-full? Yes, please!

It is 100% her choice. However, I am surprised that she didn't take the high likelihood of having twins into account when she chose to undergo reproductive assistance.

I got a "you look like Celine Dion" when I was 15. I'm pretty sure that was an undermine.

@they call me ginger: I agree with you until the part where they put it on the internet. It is funny though.

@queenhobart: Yeah I'm 29 and don't carry any body fat in my arms or hands and my hands can look like that if I flex them the wrong way.

small, nervous, unable to sit up straight in a chair for any length of time or hold a pencil properly- yep. Still me.

@portia_sue: I definitely walk that line. Have you tried a trapeze dress? It really depends on the cut of the fabric, but if I get one with a drapey, heavy fabric cut to hand down and not out, it can work really well on me.

@UUsprite: I can't do kids tops, but kids pants fit me better. It's incredibly refreshing to have something that fits my hips actually have room at the waist instead of pinching me!

@rawrsydney: I don't think it's insulting, and it worked for me in high school to shop in the little boys section- but there's really not much for an adult look in the kids section. I have saved a lot of money on ski clothes by shopping in the kids section though.