Really? Really.

Yup. Just - yup.

Holidays without toxic parents are freeing and wonderful - enjoy the family you have created.

But can you imagine going on vacation with 20 people from high school? That sound a like torture. Actually, I don't even know if I like 20 people total from my whole life (to vacation with).

Neither are the thousands, millions who agree with what this man did. Mentally sound doesn’t mean he’s not guilty. He knew it was illegal; he just doesn’t agree with the laws. You know, he’s “trying to make American great again.”

I would totally hate-watch that movie if they had someone play the woman ironically - say, Tina Fey. Actually, you should totally pitch that to Tina Fey and her people.

Well now I will be. Last time I had an issue I wasn’t loud and belligerent and just meekly went on my way. Then ended up back two days later with a life-threatening issue because of a double-diagnosis (well we’ll treat you for these two things, see how that works out. Even though the medicines for both are…

I guess you have to be Shirley MacClaine in Terms of Endearment to yell and cause a disturbance in the hospital when someone’s dying. I know there are good people who work at hospitals, but it sounds like these workers were tired of this woman’s “health issues” so they kicked her to the curb. I'm sure they checked her…

Trauma has funny ways of fucking with your brain. Some people remember it all, some remember fragments, some remember nothing. I’ve had all 3 happen to me. Believe me, in many ways the traumas I know happened and don’t remember - I’m not actively going to try to remember them. Ever. And if you want to know why I know…

That I was a worthless person who deserved to be abused (no specifics to avoid triggering myself or others). And that it wasn’t really abuse anyway because I “antagonized” it and “bruised easily.” Still a default setting deep in my brain around those people who I’m biologically related to, but I’ve had many wonderful…

I agree. I'm not allowed to talk openly about anything that happened in my family - and no one acknowledges the damage addiction and mental illness has been doing for generations in my family. Real healthy coping people. And I'm the bitchy crazy one?

She is absolutely amazing in Getting On. Deedee’s interactions with the patients are spot-on.

The More you Know..... Now we both know about the Kool Aid racial connotation. I didn’t know the expression to “to gip” (to gyp?) someone had to do with Travelers/Gypsies in Ireland and prejudice against them until I was way old. My Irish grandmother used that term all the time; I had no idea what it meant.

Are you White? I’m asking because I am too and was raised in the Northeast. I never knew the racial connotations of Kool Aid, but my (Northeastern) Black students all knew the racial meaning. This came out once when I made a “drinking the Kool Aid” brainwashing comment about McCarthyism. Which really confused the…

So, kind of like war?

I liked the first two episodes. I decided not to watch the third because I just knew it was going to get cancelled and I didn't want to get attached.

That makes total sense! Bringing a baby or child into your life - such a huge life change. I could see all sorts of brain chemicals going wonky trying to adjust - lack of sleep/life changes/new role/dream versus reality of parenthood...

Can't he just be Jake, but on a better show? And he can take Melly and David with him?

But she at least has a sense of humor. Nobody else does.

This may sound too gushy, but I hope you can believe parts of your life aren’t destroyed. You survived; you’re seeing a therapist; you posted something on here that I connected to and made me feel less alone. Those of us who didn’t know how to say no OR that we could - we’re broken, but maybe we can have some good in…