Aw dang. The part where you’re reticent to say you felt safe really hit me. I know it’s become a cliche but I think some people have lost sight of (or are ignoring) what that really means. It means so much to feel like you don’t have to “mask” the things about you that might get you the wrong attention. Hell, that’s…

Same here. It’s so easy to get into a routine and get sloppy or lazy. I don’t really want my medicine routine to take more than 5 seconds twice a day, but rushing is apparently wasting my meds. Also yeah. Advair is a totally different beast.

Don’t start that shit in here, Sean.

Spoken like someone who has never had to shoo away a crazy old man by waving a bike around.

This also works with people. Nobody wants to get hit with a bike and bikes are decent barriers in a pinch.

I use soyrizo in my chili from time to time and it’s a big hit. Pulled or chopped pork is also great. I buy an unseasoned cup from the BBQ place down the street, include the burnt bits if they have them. 

I have OCPD and this is something I’m constantly trying to do in order to loosen the grip of perfectionism on me. I allow the clothes to stay on the bathroom floor until later, I get lax on typos in texts so I can get used to making mistakes without it being a total failure. It’s actually pretty hard to do. But I’m…

I WANT THIS I WANT THIS I WANT THIS. 

I mean, yes. But the point is some advice is useful for some people. This is basically the only way my husband and I can afford to live where we live (which isn’t even a super expensive city) and stay sane. It limits our choices of where to live and work. I wish it didn’t have to be that way, but we’re not willing to…

Hell yes. My city is definitely a car city, but there are definitely ways around having one, especially now that we have ridesharing. It’s wayyyyy cheaper to Lyft a few times a week, ride my bike, and take the bus to work than to own a car. 

So this is exactly something I have done. I live in a city where 2 years ago you could hardly find an apartment close to anything that was affordable. There are very few neighborhoods people consider walkable. After having to move in a hurry we found an apartment that was close to things (and my job) but the rent was…

We’ve got an even higher deductible so our HSA is our health emergency fund. We’ve still not even saved enough to cover our deductible. It’s absurd. We’re trying to split the difference between having some of the deductible covered by the HSA and having some short-term savings in another account.

I had one of those and people definitely argued with me over whether it was a cat. It was just a large cat that would bite, scratch and growl like a dog and had a vertical leap of 5 feet, no big deal.

When I wash my hands in a bathroom that has decorative towels with a monogram or a little shell on it, but no real towel for drying my hands, that’s entrapment.

That part always stood out to me. Living in a place not designed for pedestrians makes you feel so wrong for using your body in it.

It depends on the activity that put you in that state. I’ve definitely gone way out of my normal routine (hiking 20 mi in a day) and could barely walk for a few days but I was fine. It was painful, but it was full-muscle soreness, not acute pain and I could tell where the pain was coming from. It slowly dissipated…

My BF in college bought me some bath sheets after he discovered I was running to the dorm bathroom in my normal-sized towel. Normal-sized towels don’t cover anything if you have a big butt/rest of your body.

My BF in college bought me some bath sheets after he discovered I was running to the dorm bathroom in my…

Yes yes yes. Unless you really love thinking about clothes, you don’t need a bunch of different things that require a matrix of outfits to figure out. 

Hi, this is the most reasonable advice for the process of dating.

Sounds about right. I grew up in an area dominated by hardcore and adjacent styles, so it’s not unusual to see violent moshing at punk, metal, and even hip hop shows. About the only kind of non-seated show I haven’t been hit in the face at is a jazz show.