That’s always annoyed me, although I don’t find it in feminist spaces, quite the opposite. I remember when I first had kids I saw lots of articles about how if I just got on a budget, I would find that I didn’t need to work. You know, if I got rid of cable. At the time, I made way more than my husband. My salary pays…

I need to go have another kid so I can do this because it is the highest and best achievement of the human race thus far.

It does feel good to DO something about it, doesn’t it. Fingers crossed for you. They say your odds go up with male sperm issues when the weather cools down. Maybe that’s an old wives tale but I seem to recall there was some data to support that. This will all be distant past one day that you get to tell your kids.

We ended up with two under two after thinking we would never get pregnant, at least not without IVF. Ended up being the best thing ever (not that I remember anything between 2005 and 2007, but I’m sure it was great!). It was such a whirlwind to go from despair over thinking we would never have biological children, to…

My husband was supposed to have one of those varicocele repairs— they told us we would never get pregnant without it, and probably not without IVF. They showed us his sperm on a monitor and they were super fucked up, his counts/stats were low all around. I was despondent, and convinced that none of it was going to…

I was on one parenting site for a loooong time, and then I was on its spin-off site, and even the “dark side” site for making fun of the first two. What was I doing with my life? I finally asked myself that question and then quit cold turkey. I think for a lot of the members, they really did make a lot of friends and…

I think it’s totally legitimate criticism— the trends they use for makeup and lip filler, etc. tends to make everyone look the same. Just a big mass of hair extensions, eye liner/eyebrows, and over-plumped pouty lips. Everyone should do what they want, but it sucks if you’re a young woman and feel you have to mimic…

Exactly. I think it proves that everyone (at least those with dark hair and light to medium skin) looks pretty similar with all that makeup, especially the contouring, and lip plumper/filler/botox. It’s boring.

I want to know where it is. We’re flying into Krabi and heading to an island from there, and from what I can tell, there aren’t many islands to go to that don’t have a ferry.

So awful, I can’t imagine. By 20 weeks you’re pretty invested. I remember being so scared of that, and now that those kids are born and full blown legit people, it’s even sadder to think about.

I can only imagine what this all must seem like to people outside the US.

Very Handmaid’s Tale.

I didn’t think so, but I literally had no clue about the procedure- thanks.

I’ve been hate-stalking some FB comments on news stories, and it appears their backup argument on this is “well I shouldn’t have to pay for it!” Which is beyond moronic given the number of things taxpayers fund, and the bang for your buck you get with birth control. Clearly they hate birth control nearly as much,…

That makes total sense. I’m sorry to hear about that.

That’s what I thought, thanks.

Thanks for the explanation— I’m sorry you had to go through that.

Ok but here’s kind of a weird question— if they do it that way and it’s after the point of viability, how do they handle that? Meaning what do they do when the fetus comes out alive? Obviously I know that’s (a) rare and (b) usually because of a genetic abnormality, etc. in a wanted pregnancy. But just wondering.

Yea that’s kind of what I was thinking— that it seems like a miscarriage because the fetus is still intact.

Genuine question here— when you have an abortion at that stage, does the fetus come out intact like that? I thought that it doesn’t, and that the procedure is different than miscarrying, where you basically go into labor and deliver the intact fetus the same as you would down the line at your due date. I thought that…