I can't imagine the damage that will be done to this poor little girl if she's removed from the only home she's known. Anyone who thinks that this isn't going to have a huge impact on her is kidding themselves. My daughter was adopted at 13 months old and separating her from her foster mom, the only mom she knew, was…

You are not! They were my favorites.

Butt taco is the best thing I've read all day.

Thank you for your insight and I agree that we make their normal. Mu kids have some special needs and go to a school with other special needs kids and I'm glad that it's just normal friends to them and aren't seen as different. I'm also an idealist;)

Thanks for posting this! My kids are also adopted from Korea and I made a big deal about getting my daughter an Asian doll and was surprised that no one else felt the same importance and told me kids don't care what their toys look like. She got 4 dolls her first Christmas with us and every single one was blonde with…

This is gut wrenching to read and I'm so so sorry. I can't imagine how hard that must be and what a terrible position you have been put in.

I'm sorry to read this and I hope your situation improves. My kids have attachment issues related to their adoption and I have a fear that not only will they reject me for not being Korean like they are but also because I'm fat and I know how that's treated in their culture.

Guilt is an inherited trait in my family. My grandma used to not want me to drive home from her house at night because I might get into an accident and then she would feel AWFUL and would feel like it was her fault since I was leaving her house. My mom won't let my kids run around when she babysits because she's…

Honest question for real. My kids are Korean and I am not, but I own (purchased in Seoul) and make hanboks, which are traditional Korean dresses. I love them because they're beautiful and because of the connection with my kids but should I not wear them with them? It's usually only for a really special occasion but if…

My uncle was friends with him pre-stardom and never had a bad word to say about him. He always said he was as nice as a person as he was on tv (Roseanne era).

I have two adopted non-white kids, both with special needs that have required extensive therapies and we paid about the same to adopt, FWIW. We were open to these things but it didn't change the huge amount we still had to pay.

I so hear all of that, especially fitting in a life you want with what you already have. My kids are little (3 & 5) so we keep getting tripped up on living how we think we should for them vs. having the kind of slightly more unusual life that we really want and it's frustrating but I really feel like this year was the…

I also think I thought I would feel differently at this age, like everything would be settled and I would be wise but it's been the total opposite. I feel like exploring and taking more risks than I did when I was younger because all the bullshit I told myself before doesn't resonate as much anymore. Not that I don't…

I just turned 39 last week and it's really made me aware of where I am in life and where I want to go much more than any other age has and it's kind of scary and liberating. My husband was being sappy the other night and said if anything happened to him he wanted me to go and live out this dream we have no matter what…

Oh my god, that is awful. I'm so sorry that happened to you. ( I wish I had something more profound to say but I just wanted to say something.)

My parents told me that my entire childhood. You would be so pretty if you just lost weight!! That awareness has never gone away, regardless of what the scale or my pants size says.

Thanks!

I have always had issues with depression and anxiety (my mom and grandma both had to be hospitalized for "nervous breakdowns" back in the day) but it wasn't until my second kid came home that I finally went on meds. Both my kids have special needs and after my daughter had been home for 6 months, I was having full on…

Units! I loved the little armpit vent they had but sadly they were less than flattering on my overweight junior high body.

I totally get that. I just had my 20 year reunion and it made me realize how I really wasn't involved that much. Junior high was my own personal hell and I guess when I went to high school I figured I'd lay low and just do the work and maybe no one would notice. Everyone else there had these fun memories and stories…