Especially when you accidentally do it 5 more times?

I agree with most of that, and while Cohen is hardly the best messenger for this kind of message, nor are the people he cites, I think it's still important to deliver the message that "real men" don't rape. And that includes the fact that most men don't—and therefore one's manhood is not and should never be measured…

Apparently it means getting stabbed isn't enough. He needs to get rape threats to, you know, get sympathy. What a fucking ashole.

The comparison with bullying is so amazingly apt. That's essentially what it is, gender-based bullying. You've got too many idiot dudes and some idiot women suggesting it's just another form of hitting on people. It's not. While it's overwhelmingly guys that do it, whoever does it is disrespecting and dehumanizing…

I don't quite buy that. She's making her own choice choice based on HER experiences that she gets along better with men than women. She's not saying that men are inherently superior and are better friends to everyone, it's simply a matter of what works for her.

Why is it a bad thing for women to decide to have more male friends, abd something to get over?

Well it's not really punishing women though. It's helpfully letting guys know they don't have a goodchance of hraing back from her, so they can take that into account as they consider whether they want to take the time to message her. And if she gets fewer messages as a redult, isn't that helping her to reduce the…

You seem to be confusing objective with incentive. The objecive is to meet someone to click with. But if an app only penalizes guys for trying to economize their time using it, what is their incentive for using it in the first place? You complain about the time consuming process of reading so many messages. But it's…

Except that'a assuming only creepy messages get non responses. If the response rate for most guys is fewer than 1 in 10 messages, why should any guy join? It'seems difficult to establish

Yeah, with the pool of good datable women on many of these sites so shallow to begin with, why would I want to join a site that narrows that even further? Makes no sense.

What'a the incentive tof take the time to search, consider, and write large volume of quality messages if the chance of getting a reply is so slim. That'a also time consuming and it gives you zero to show for your effort. I don't know how much this actually solves any think but at least they'remaking an effort to…

I know, right? There'should certainly some appeal to the idea of flagging shifty messages and non-responsiveness, balancing what people of both genders are looking for in such an app. Because it seems it'a a shit show whether you'really looking for men or women in places like OKC. There's got to be some inventive for…

I agree, even if she does like this sort of thing, I think this is a horrible horrible idea. But I think if someone is going to propose, it should be up to them how they want to do it, based on their understanding of the person to whom they're proposing . Whoever cares the most about exatly how it's done should be the…

Or women can also stop demanding crazy, elaborate, and public wedding proposals to plan for to put the guy on the spot, just so they can brag to their friends about it, that would work too.

"WOMEN ARE NOT A MONOLITH AND SHOULOD BE TREATED AS INDIVIDUALS BUT I CAN SPEAK FOR EACH AND EVERY WOMAN ON THE PLANET ABOUT HOW WE FEEL ABOUT THIS SPECIFIC THING."

Well except for those occaisions when the person you ask is upset because they want some crazy extravagant proposal they can brag about to the rest of their friends and a simple proposal won't cut it. Gawd I hope never to fall for one of those kinds of women again.

The problem I've run into though is that women have their own specific ideas of how they want to be proposed to, without having to do it themselves. So the agency that the guy has is often taken away anyway because she spells out just how she wants it done.

Yeah, they generally don't want to do it themselves (saw the #notallwomen responses about the rare cases women will do it), but they often do want to dictate when and how and where it's done. I've had exes with very intricate descriptions of just how their proposal was supposed to go. So if these were all their ideas,…

Nope, I think that's pretty much it. Of course it depends on what you're looking for as well. Trying to find a quality date can take an awful long time. Because even if you get those 4 responses, there's trying to find 1 that's not insufferable!

Honestly, I can see the appeal. Nine times out of ten the only thing she's really responding to is your picture. Women don't really read profiles, and it's often a waste of time trying to come up with something too witty to start, because, the #1 thing that matters is picture. Once you get past that and she actually…