But these aren't YOUR experiences, meaning, your experience isn't as a man being attracted to women. The people who do have those experiences, which includes many of the guys responding to this piece, are saying: no women don't necessarily get invisible as they get older, most guys prefer to date women their own age,…

Okay, so you are attracted to much younger guys but not all much younger guys?

So much this. I'm just a little older than you and I happen to work near a university. The college girls may as well be pre-schoolers to me. MAYBE the grad students look attractive, but I wouldn't even think to date them. They're still doing the party thing, have different sets of interests, don't have the same range…

Really? How many guys their own age have they tried to pursue?

Nailed it.

The worst are the people that manage to to do both. Complain that the other gender has unrealistic wishlists while proudly maintaining and justifying their own.

Except just about every guy here is saying that's not true. That guys aren't generally after women half their age, and many, including myself, are saying we're repulsed by the idea.

It's not just men of OKCupid, iot's the one's that also decide to use some rating app. So yes, there's a major selection bias there.

Now that seems like a perfectly reasonable explanation of the data and it's source.

They complain when you're attracted to them, and complain when you're not.

I totally hear you. Online dating really is the worst, which is why I cringe at being back in the pool. Total ndearth of personality. The women either had cookie-cutter vapid profiles and responded in text speak, if they bothered at all, or had personalities so sharp and obnoxious they could cut glass.

That's exactly right, there are no women over 23 in relationships!!!

Nahb more like: men willing to admit younger women look attractive. Women not willing to admit the same for younger men.

Seriously. And guys make fun of other guys that try and date women so far below their age range! So not only is it not a normal thing, guys ridicule it!

Bingo!

Judging from how my female friends talk about guys, I'd say that's prpobably exactly right.

Let's not forget, there's still a lot of pressure on guys to be in the successful provider role before they commit, which is exactly why I wasn't in a position to commit to my last long term gf. I was just out of grad school, still determining where my career path was heading, including which country I'd be working…

Let's see:

Don't you know abuse is okay, even to be celebrated here if it's against boyfriends! AmeliaE sounds like just the kind of person to brag about such a thing.

As I told another poster, it's not normal, but I do think it is a bit too common.