The thing about abusers is that they are very good at making you feel like you aren’t thinking logically. They gaslight everyone around you. They are charismatic and dangerous.

My parents have been married for more than 40 years. My Dad is 4 inches shorter than my mother (and her kids are shoooooort because she’s like the one tall woman in her very large family). People have been pointing this out to the point that everyone but one person - my hippie dippie aunt - basically forced her to…

Yes. I think he was very over-the-top on purpose but it is based on Lindy West’s memoirs and he was Lindy’s boss. I know this because she was writing for Jez when I started reading it a million and one years ago.

Also as the Dan Savage stand-in character in Shrill. Same. Love to hate him.

This only made me love him more.

I think we’re sort of socialized to accept it as women, in particular. Our bodies are always policed. It’s really why I refuse (most of the time) to pick battles over what my kid wears apart from safety reasons. The pandemic has made this even easier because all of her clothes are now school clothes and I don’t care…

Can confirm that this was and always will be when things got seriously troubling in my eyes. I am not a Kardashians stan but this is a red flag. I had a boyfriend who did this. About 90 days into our relationship, he slowly started to insist I wear black clothes and stop wearing red (my favorite color). It went so far…

Colonialism and feudalism are looooooong “snippets” of history. They are the basis of state and nationbuilding. That’s not about context.

It’s literally how white people came to rule the world. And how they now have most of the world’s purchasing and political power.

If you asked Sami people how they feel about others encroaching on them, how would THEY feel? That’s still displacing people in the name of manifest destiny and “owning” lands.

Sami exist across Finland, Sweden, and Norway. Much like how many native tribes span both the US and Canada but have been divided by the…

Same! Big feels. We did Desperate Housewives on Sundays.

I don’t know who is teaching this kid about cyber hygiene but they are doing a great job!

Many adults could take a cue from him.

Yeah, really. Cosign all of this.

I don’t know any teachers who itemize and I know a LOT of teachers.

They are seriously the best thing ever according to any parent who has ever had a case of them in their house. And according to our ped, they are the best investment you can make. It’s really the only way to stay sane.

True but for about a million-and-one reasons, polyamory is not an ideal setup for my partner and I.

You do realize that many kids (including my own and myself) have medical procedures at a young age and get sticked with a lot of things to stay alive? And that we are grateful we are alive? This is the most bizarre reason to not vaccinate your kids on the schedule that is intended.

Do you realize that the schedule was…

So, straight people have these very strange views of “ownership” over not only their current partners but past partners. Like, if you fucked someone, you somehow have dibs. It’s like you shoveled out a space in front of your apartment and put a chair in it to tell other people to fuck off and to tell them they can’t…

But that’s seriously ableist.

I have a chronic medical condition that has plagued me since childhood and nearly killed me a few times and my mother and father always made me feel like an inconvenience. They told me it, too. When I read this, I absolutely go back to that place.

When my daughter was born healthy, my mom…

Those people don’t even believe the baby should exist if it didn’t get here the “right” way.  It’s disturbing.

Yup.

And when the fetus is a newborn and needs food, the needs of mom matter not at all. Mom doesn’t need to eat. She doesn’t need the ability to recover. She doesn’t need to sleep. She needs to be tied to an infant 24/7 with no support because Breast is Best. But also, your partner isn’t getting leave, you have no…

That’s not really true for American women. Things are *not* better for women my age than they were for women my mother’s age. They are not better for women of color.