rockoutwithyourbockout
rockoutwithyourbockout
rockoutwithyourbockout
Mar 5
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We have a local coffee shop that uses square really innovatively but they were started by IT nerds and had been working in that space a LONG time before the pandemic.  I work in IT as well.  Our department was ready to go fully virtual at the drop of a hat because we’d prepared for it but almost no one else was.  It’s Read more

Mar 5
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I wish I could. However, I have a young child who I cannot leave in a car and waiting for food safely is difficult enough, finding parking is often a fucking disaster, and then you have to deal with a four year old who is usually a doll but is far too heavy to pick up and carry - especially while holding food.

So, when Read more

Mar 5
2

The thing I was told all the time when I was living in the UK was “Slow down! Where’s the fire?” Americans want everything NOW, NOW, NOW. there is this sense of urgency that is very stressful, overwhelming, and unbecoming. It doesn’t sit well with Brits and it doesn’t endear them to you. I now have a more balanced Read more

Mar 5
7

Until my husband, I had never found anyone who could keep up with me and no one who was as sexually open as I was (and I’m not even that kinky!). The last guy I dated before I met my husband many years ago was older, wiser, and had more sexual partners (which was a feat because I had an active early 20s). It started Read more

Feb 28
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I never would have eaten expensive cheese as a child but I also think my foodie parents refused to share with me knowing I might like it. In our case, my husband sent her to school with what should have been mozzarella in her lunch. Instead, in a week, he went through about $30.00 worth of good parmesan.  I found out Read more

Feb 26
7

This is my kid.  She also once took a bite out of a large piece of parm while I wasn’t looking at the grocery.  I let her hold it - she was 2 at the time - because she was being “helpful”.  She would eat an entire wheel given the chance, I think.

Feb 24
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My best therapists have actually been male and I don’t know why. Two of them were gay, 1 (my favorite forever) was straight. But all were well-versed in practice relating to trauma and that, for me, has been key to success in therapy. My OCD and mood disorder are well-managed but trauma will always be there to ruin my Read more

Feb 20
26

Can we please stop describing people with bipolar disorder as “complicated” and loving them “painful”. JFC, Page Six. I’m so over it. I’m a healthy, productive human who has a great job, a happy family, and a PhD. I did all of this WITH Bipolar II. I watched other members of my family and refuse treatment and have the Read more

Feb 13
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Having a trashcan in the bathroom is still very hard to find in the 25 year old man set. I can remember one night that my now-husband (30) and I went out with a friend who was my age (25 at the time). He said his girlfriend who lives about an hour away and doesn’t see him but on the weekend was upset and they got into Read more

Feb 13
7

As the breadwinner who is FAR less involved with school and home, it is really important for me to check in with my spouse, see where he is, and to see what is going on that I didn’t know about.   Catching up is really, really important.

Jan 30
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We, too, had a blob of fat.  OMG.  AND HAIR.  I never felt as triumphant as I did taking care of that shit! It was SO GROSS.

Jan 26
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That has to feel really hard. My husband is a creative and works PT and cares for our child primarily when she is not in school. I don’t know how I could manage the stress in that position if I was reliant on anyone (he relies on my income since I make substantially more and this is our division of labor). Because I’d Read more

Jan 25
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The year that I was able to be completely self-reliant and self-supporting so we could never ask my parents for help again (the year I got my PhD) was the most freeing year. I set boundaries. It was scary but I am thankful my child is growing up free of that trauma.

Thanks for sharing.  My OCD is much better controlled Read more

Jan 24
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It’s not them taking her phone away. It’s the TERRIBLE abuse that she’s captured. Her mother threatens to beat the shit out of her in one of the videos and calls her a fucking bitch repeatedly. Tells her no one will believe her because she’s a piece of shit.

My parent did this to me. My ex did this to me. It was far Read more

Jan 24
1

Therapy is very difficult for people with BPD to do without making it WORSE.  You need a really skilled clinician.  My father definitely has borderline tendencies but he is mostly someone with deep-seated trauma and alcoholism which causes him to act like a narc.  When he’s sober, he’s a different human.  Someone like Read more

Jan 24
5

I don’t think people cared in the early 2000s about this - I’m not even sure about this now. Teenagers are often treated like adults and that is a terrible thing to do. They aren’t mature. They need love and support and guidance. And sometimes they do just need their mommy or daddy to make it okay. I never had that. Read more

Jan 24
4

I think it’s the gaslighting that broke me.

I couldn’t keep watching the videos. It was too triggering.

In my case, it was my dad calling me a “stupid fucking bitch” and throwing things at me.  Or my mom threatening me for asking for help when my OCD was out of control and I began self-harming because of my own life Read more