rockoutwithyourbockout
rockoutwithyourbockout
11/11/19
8:57 PM
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When I was in Ottawa, I found that most of the faculty I worked with lived in Gatineau. That’s when I discovered the disparity between QC and ON on these benefits. I can see why people locate there vs. crossing the canal.

11/11/19
8:55 PM
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This.  We have two older kids (my bonus kids) and then our toddler.  Her childcare FT would cost more than the cost of our mortgage.  It’s why only I work FT and her dad is PT right now.  Two of them would be infeasible and he’d have to quit working completely.

11/11/19
8:51 PM
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It’s easier to provide more programs than to regulate all public, non-profit, and private employers.

That’s sad but it is what it is.

11/8/19
10:11 PM
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It’s hard to have a baby. I can’t imagine having a baby in the public eye.  I had terrrrrible PPD and every day was a struggle for about 9 months and then every few days for at least another year.  It still comes up occasionally and my kid is almost three.  I bet she’s fucking miserable.

11/4/19
7:17 PM
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You can make it at home pretty easily.  I do ours with chicken or veal since I don’t eat pork.  You just hammer it out to a very thin layer, bread, and fry it up.  The spaetzel is just from Aldi.

11/3/19
9:00 PM
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I have a 12 mile commute. I feel you. I have an e-bike now because the whole thing is hills and I got terribly sick of hauling all the extra clothes. It’s fantastic but it won’t make up for bad bike infrastructure. That I understand. I’m fortunate to live where we do. Right now I have a shitty-ass detour that I hate Read more

11/3/19
8:28 PM
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So much yummy stuff this week.

Su: Cheese Tortellini with broccoli
M: Chicken Burgers
T: Beef and Lentil Stew
W: No clue, Fend for yourself
TR: Chicken Tenders
F: Schnitzel and Spaetzel
Sa: Who the fuck knows

This is going to be a clutch week.

11/3/19
8:17 PM
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You had me at baked potatoes (and my littlest Bocklet who ate two huge baking potatoes the other day - mine and hers).  Sounds good.

11/3/19
8:16 PM
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Ugh.  Stephen Miller is a scourge.  And thanks!  I feel for them, too.  I hope my kids are never in this position over anything the two of us do.

11/3/19
8:15 PM
3

I have a brother-in-law in Chesterfield looking for a new house. I think that’s a bit out of his pricerange but I will let you know.

11/3/19
8:14 PM
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She will definitely get all the help she needs now.  We are making damn sure of it.  One of my BiL’s is retired and he’s going over to help post-op.  He regularly takes care of his MiL (that’s really part of why he retired, she needed more care) so he will do a great job.

11/3/19
8:13 PM
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I hate the gym.  It takes so much time.  This is why I bike commute and use the walking desk at work.  I’m lucky to have one of those.  I’ve lost 5 lb in the last couple of months changing nothing else.  It’s much cheaper than the gym and it’s working.  I mean, before that I was working out at the gym 3 times a week.  Read more

11/3/19
8:10 PM
4

I’ve thought this a lot about the men who hurt me so I don’t blame you.

FiL wasn’t always this way but he has gotten crueler as he’s about to be 80. Never mind that she waited on him hand and foot through the last three surgeries he had to restore his ability to run and also dealt with him almost dying from a BP Read more

11/3/19
8:06 PM
5

This.

Although, I will say this, there is a lot of history to their 50+ year marriage. My MiL has historically left the fold in the past to have a relationship separate from FiL and he tends to look the other way knowing certain things are not worth the fight. I blame it on Catholicism.

11/3/19
8:05 PM
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That’s really fucking sad.  My dad missed out on most of my daughter’s first year of life because of the way he drank and acted immediately after her birth.  It’s very, very sad.  My FiL really, really loves our daughter dearly but cannot fathom why we would set a boundary.  That’s also very sad for him.  And, Read more

11/3/19
4:28 PM
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I have left two jobs due to personnel issues and felt terrible guilt about it regardless of what happened, OP. Neither time did I cause the breakdown but my leaving did chip away at something each time. When I heard about these breakdowns, I always felt guilt but there was nothing I could have done differently.

This is Read more