I’m guessing you haven’t been in the last 2-3 years. It’s basically Myrtle Beach of the Mountains these days.

Counterpoint: utterly pointless, game-losing personal foul penalties from Burfict and Pacman were the storybook ending Marvin Lewis’ tenure in Cincy deserved.

It was the summer after my freshman year of college, and I was staying at my parents’ house. They went out of town, so I decided it would be a good idea to throw a mud wrestling party. It wasn’t.

Yeah, I’m with you. I think the name should change, but I’d like to see it change because Snyder’s customers start giving a shit and make it untenable, not because Uncle Sam docks his allowance.

I’m not at all convinced humans have existed longer than Facebook. Source please.

Supervising another adult’s email and phone use is, by definition, dehumanizing. It’s taking a basic human right (privacy) away from them. No therapist in the world will ever tell you it’s healthy or beneficial to your relationship. It’s not about trust. It’s about asserting control, and restoring your ego at their…

This is the mindset behind a lot of emotionally abusive relationships. Another person’s privacy is not a privilege that you can take away and restore as you see fit. Marriage doesn’t change that. If your SO cheats, you have every right to leave. You have every right to be hurt and angry. You don’t have the right to…

You don’t have to know anything about the strangers involved to know that this mindset (“I can’t trust you unless you let me have access to your passwords”) is wrong. This means control/boundary issues at a minimum, and is a very strong indicator of emotional abuse. There are no mitigating circumstances that can make…

If my SO cheated, I don’t think I’d be able to trust her again. So I’d leave. That’s why it takes a really special person to save a relationship after they’ve been cheated on. You have to be willing to truly forgive, and you have to truly want to stay in the relationship. And staying in the relationship means…

Said the guy with the edgy handle, edgily.

Yeah, I’m in the same boat. I’ve been married several years, have kids, etc. and I still don’t think we could come back from it if one of us cheated.

“These are things my spouse shouldn’t be privy to?”

So I was totally with you until the last sentence, and only because you said “your sex.” Which is what the narrator calls her vagina in 50 Shades of Grey. And now I’m super embarrassed to have outed myself for knowing that.

I notice you conveniently left phone and email out of those examples. If you have a high-pressure career, if you have friends or family in crisis, if you are facing medical challenges (just to give a few broad examples), you might at some point want to keep certain information private, or at least have the opportunity…

This is a pretty commonly used tactic for emotional abusers (my friend’s husband was fond of it). “I would show you my phone/email/etc., so why won’t you show me yours? If you have nothing to hide, why don’t you want me to see it?”

I guess I see a lot of similarity between non-monogamy and atheism. Specifically, both are things I believe in, but the people who advocate for them are so snobbily dismissive of others’ choices that I sometimes find myself wishing I didn’t.

I do. Asking your SO for access to their phone/email/facebook sounds like a violation of their privacy, and I don’t think you should construe their desire to maintain that privacy as secrecy.

So edgy!

This is a terrible idea. If your relationship can’t be saved without creating crippling boundary issues, it probably shouldn’t be saved. You don’t trust me because I let you read my texts and emails—you read my texts and emails because you don’t trust me. Regularly violating my privacy is not the path to restoring…

I get what you’re saying in principle, but I don’t think it works in practice. A friend of mine cheated and her husband would demand to go through her phone and email every night, and even go through her purse looking for burners. It was just very dehumanizing and degrading. And the joint Facebook account is a…