“Let’s get the factual facts out there. She’s [Jannie Ligons] not innocent the way people think she is. She had a bust in the ‘80s … But we couldn’t present that to the jury... This is not a woman that’s, you know, a soccer mom or someone that’s credible in society.”

I know when I am running low on money I just find a random dude in public, point and him, scream rape and wait for donations to come in. It is like pan handling only OBVIOUSLY it is a way bigger pay day. Like...i dunno...WINNING THE LOTTERY!

Oh, didn’t you know? As soon as you say you’ve been raped veryone starts throwing money at you and praising you - not dragging your name and reputation through the mud, examining every tiny move you’ve ever made, and calling you a lying slut. I don’t know what alternative world he’s living in, but I’d really like to…

Always useful when a predator reveals his criteria for potential victims (women with “lifestyles,” meaning they’re black or poor). He’s too much of an ignorant, spoiled little shit to see how obvious his guilt is to everyone else.

Keep diggin bud.

Where’s the money, then, asshole?

I watched this last night and it was disgusting. How many times did they mention he was an all star football player? Way too many. One time would have been too many. While talking about the vile things that he did, they followed it up by mentioning what an amazing son/brother/boyfriend he was. He’s a piece of shit and…

Why the fuck are they even interviewing him?

Contouring was a big part of the 70's/80's — and was roundly mocked thereafter (granted, it was less subtle then), and fell out of style. I’m actually surprised it made a comeback amidst all of the mockery it took. Contouring was of a piece with Farrah’s flipped hair.

God, tell me about it. This same mentality helped my wife’s abusive ex-husband get away with breaking her arm in front of witnesses. The police showed up and they immediately doubted her in spite of the injury and the witnesses because she was “too calm.” That’s who she is! She’s stoic! She deals with trauma by…

I agree that everyone shows tragedy in a different way. I more see it that a person changed when talking about the tragedy, whether becoming emotional and crying or becoming really quite and reserved.

Before I get into my point, I want to say *I* empathize with you. I’ve been through that, I recognize that reaction in myself, even if I don’t do exactly what you did.

Right, she’s either hysterical and in tears, so they see something change in her; or she’s hysterical, and that’s why you can’t trust a woman, she’s so overly emotional.

And we don’t equally apply the standard of grief and despair across all tragedies. If I matter-of-factly say my mother died 10 years ago, you would believe me. But if I say I was raped 10 years ago, you may doubt me because I don’t quiver and cry.

Lindy Chamberlain (who most people probably know as the “a dingo ate my baby!” lady) is one of the clearest examples of this. Her stoic behavior after the disappearance of her baby, Azaria, played a big role in convicting her of killing the baby, at least in public opinion. There were certainly other factors, such as…

My first thoughts were, “Oh shit, now the whole family will descend upon the house. The house is a mess! We don’t have any food! Who can I call to go to my house and receive guests. I have to call so-and-so. I should make a list...”

I can’t guarantee that this information is accurate, but I’m pretty sure I’ve heard that it’s actually fairly common for victims of sexual assault to come across as cold and detached when recounting their stories just because they’re trying to get through reciting the details rather than spilling their guts to a…

Yep. I was gang-raped when I was 19 and just walked around like a zombie the next day. And I am actually not a stoic person at all. Actually, part of this whole “victims MUST be hysterical” narrative is part of what prevents fast reporting of sex crimes. We all have the trope in our heads, “If you were victimized,…

Want to get even angrier? Listen to This American Life’s Anatomy of Doubt episode:

I’m a big blubberer. I cry at the drop of a hat - emotional movies, any amount of frustration, seeing my sister for the first time in months, listening to Disney movie songs from my childhood, reminiscing about my grandparents, you name it. I just well up.