Completely understand how you feel. I tend to freeze up emotionally when something horrible, like a death occurs. It usually takes me a few days to get past the numbness to process anything. Everyone reacts differently because everyone has an incredibly different life experience.
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This this this. When I was violently mugged the police kept telling me afterward at the station how impressed they were that I was calm and not crying or hysterical. And all I could think is “if I were here reporting a sexual assault you would think my calmness was a strike against my credibility.”
Same, and I’m a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Some survivors “steel themselves” before attempting to describe what has happened to them, and may seem quite emotionally detached. I myself get this way. How we live and heal (or not) after traumatic events may not always make sense to those who have never had…
Certainly the rapist has no shortage of tears in the photo, so crying isn't indicative of any actual empathy.
Yeah, plus the worst people know how to game the “real victim” thing. psychopaths are less likely to be found guilty of crimes because they are so good at acting in the way they are “supposed” to act
It is indeed more prevalent and insidious, and also far stickier, because it has to do with our continuous exposure to a racist society and the ideas we absorb unnoticed and uncritically from it, not about our intentions. I would really like to think I’m less racially biased than average, but 1) I’m certainly not…
We recently had a tragedy in my family, and after a few days my mom and I got drunk and confessed to each other that we had no idea what the appropriate “freak out” level was. I don’t want to be the stereotype of a hysterical woman and lose my shit, and besides, there is A LOT TO DO after something like that so who’s…
I am the stoic non-cryer of my family, so I know exactly what you mean. I may cry later, but not until I am alone. And I would never cry in front of a room full of people. I kind of wish I could, but that’s just not who I am. And, yes, people often get me wrong.
Subconscious racism is a much bigger, more prevalent and more insidious problem.
Additionally, you have to wonder if some of the initial doubt from the jurors about the credibility of the witness was at least subconsciously informed by some racial bias.
This bitch is exactly how I imagine my former best friend talks about me and my depression. She never reached out and then when we got together she would complain that all I ever did was bring the group down. I begged her to invite me to things because my postpartum depression was keeping me isolated and lonely. I get…
My brother has schizophrenia. His life has value. I could never imagine writing something like that about him. Just FYI people, stop making psycho or schizo into a slur. Stigma is a real problem and contributes to the devaluing of the lives of people who have thought disorders.
Okay can we talk about xoJane lately?? The other day I read the one from the woman who says that she thinks straight men just become gynecologists to grope women and I just
“judgmental, self-absorbed, and unreflective,” should be xoJane’s tagline.
There’s a guy who fucks with his socks on.
I triple-dog dare them to show me the Scripture that addresses trans people. I’ll wait.
Honestly, I’d much prefer if ALL schools affiliated with religion had their federal funding pulled. It leave more funds for kids in public school.