Nope. I had a dude that couldn’t keep it up for vaginal sex but was magic with his fingers and I am not afraid to say he was the best sex I ever had, even compared to guys that could get the job done with vaginal intercourse. This is pretty common among my friends, too. The issue often leads to men classifying sex as…

Too many hetero men will see “deep kissing” and hear “massive tongue thrusting.” Good passionate kissing is mostly in the lips and being expressive and responsive, ie. not just mashing your faces together or tongue thrusting. Probably another thing to blame on bad porn.

perhaps - we have generations of people women who would rather spare another’s feelings that ensure their own pleasure.

“I suspect that you are easier to get off than most women” Ew.

Ugh, it’s this fucking guy again. Don’t respond to his nonsense, he’s an MRA.

The OP didn’t actually specify that conversation took place after vaginal sex. But for men who tend to orgasm from vaginal sex before they get a chance to figure out their partners’ needs, there seems to be a pretty easy solution: start the oral and the finger action before the piv sex. This has the added benefit of…

I’m right there with you. And I’ve never faked an orgasm because it’s counterproductive.

It depends on the guy. Some are quick to finish and others...not so much. And for girls, some of them can be very quick too, especially if she’s already turned on and you know what she likes when you use fingers/tongue.

A) Blowjobs are not easy to do. Have you ever given one?

The partners of 89% of lesbian women are able to do this. I think, “There’s no excuse to be bad at this,” is entirely warranted.

Ask him if you have to let his stick his dick in you EVERY time.

LOL who the fuck said she should be proud? Or he should be grateful. Both should try to please the other not to score points.

While I agree that men and women should communicate their desires and try to please each other sexually within reason, there is a huge difference between not giving your partner an orgasm and not giving your partner an orgasm their preferred way.

People need to learn how to communicate during sex. Like some people might like really aggressive oral, some may not. We kind of need to get out of our own heads. Like you said, if a guy is like “oh just you wait” that pretty much says, “my ex girlfriend really liked this so you must too.” Which sounds really weird if…

But it’d be great if heterosexual men would talk to each other about this, so their girlfriends don’t have to keep writing orgasm Sparknotes.

Not even adjustment *generally* but adjustment to YOU and your preferences, like an attentive and conscientious lover would understand. It’s like not making someone orgasm is this condemnation of your sexual worth (if het men care at all) such that you give up trying. No, it’s just a little time, effort, paying…

Also please don’t assume you are a sex god because you do oral. I know what will get me off and guys be like oh you just wait until I get there and I’m like hahaha stop you’ll probably do it wrong. And they do it all wrong and I don’t come and they just can’t accept that their technique needs adjustment.

Honestly I saw this article on The Guardian yesterday and in my fury to find out what they considered the “golden trio” I’m pretty sure I whizzed past some statistics along these lines. Basically the stats don’t add up with women who say they do/don’t climax versus what men think is happening.

I’d add, don’t fuck a Republican guy, ladies and your chances of getting off will be incrementally greater*

Articles like this are fine but the real education should be teaching women how to say what they want and partners how to accept it without hurt feelings