If it were allowed? So if she buys a dress there, then what? She gets a spanking? Hmm... win, win I'd say.

I basically wrote the same thing only you did it better.

I love Anthropologie too. There is one nextdoor to the REI and bookstore in Austin, and so I window shop there pretty frequently. Sometimes I see something I particularly love (though I'd take anything in that store) and I go inside and actually hold it up to myself and look at the price tag and really consider trying…

Why? Maybe you misunderstand? Why would you go to a dog beach or a dog park and then complain about dogs? That's like going to a dancehall and complaining about music.

BTW, obviously I'm old.

What has Shia LaBeouf been in that make people like him so much? Or is it just that Rob Cantor song and some of the quirky stuff he does when he's not acting? I mean, surely even if it's just his personality and stunts, he could act in a decent movie? I only know about Transformers and Indiana Jones. Has he done…

That's what I meant about the setting. If the dog is off leash in an area where it is not allowed (which is MOST places) then obviously the fault lies entirely with the person who let the dog off leash. But if the dog is off leash in an area where it is allowed (which in the US is usually specific parks or beaches),…

lol at the killer kids. But for that analogy to work, the question would be- either in the case of the teacher's negligence or in the case of a really homicidal kid that the best teacher couldn't control- would the parents be legally at fault?

What about when people approach your dog? I control my dog pretty well on leash, but sometimes people run up- especially children. The worst is when other dogs run up. My dog will be fine, but how do the parents/other owners know that?

Why would it be her fault and not the dog walker’s if the dog walker is the one walking the dog? Like, what if someone borrowed your car and hit someone- would it be your fault and not the driver?

I don’t know about that. I think the setting is what’s important. I’ve been injured lately, and I have to be careful about where I go in public without a cane. I mean, if I’m at a leash-free area or in a park where lots of kids are running around and biking, it can seem pretty dangerous. I do not feel safe because at…

I’m not trying to teach you a lesson or say that you were patronizing in this situation. I’ve said repeatedly that without context, there is no way to know. You are interacting with another person with whom you have an existing relationship in a particular context. I'm sure it's all fine.

Obviously #notallmen etc.

I don't see how that's insight into cat-calling. But I'm out of energy. I agree about everything else, especially Cruz! All politicians have PR people and campaign manages telling them to smile and be more likeable. It's absurd, but if you are appealing to an audience that is accustomed to cable news, that's what you…

Rereading your post, again out of context and having no idea what your relationship is with this gal, I’d say it does come across as a little patronizing. “What happened to your smile” sounds like something you’d say to a child. “Where’s your smile?” Then the child smiles. “There it is!” Again, if it were a dude, and…

What would you say if it were a male colleague in the same situation? Women are people. She’s someone you actually know and there is context for the situation. There isn’t any one right or wrong thing in situations like that. I don’t know you or her or your relationship so I can’t say. I don’t think it’s ALWAYS wrong…

I don’t think they are consciously aware that they are thinking this way (if they were, that sort of thinking would dissolve) but yes. And I think the “smile” thing is a perfect example of that. There are only two possibilities: 1. They are aware that I have my own inner life, just as they do, and that I’m walking…

That’s a nice rule of thumb for behavior, but I think it’s better to challenge the perspective that views women only from the pov of the man considering them in the first place. I don’t think men consciously think this way, but it does seem that they are unable to imagine the fact that women do not think of themselves…

I don't know. I really can't wrap my brain around it. I've asked men who've said this to me before what the fuck they mean. And they've said either because I'm prettier when I smile or because they want me to be happy. In both cases, it leads me to want to smash in their skulls. So maybe better to skip over the asking…

Yes, but otherwise they are called low-intensity or robotic or whatever. It’s a performance; they must entertain and play a roll. It’s immensely frustrating for people who aren’t regularly tuned into this sort of noise. But if you are cable-news watching sort, then you don’t even notice how weird it is.