I don’t know how fancy the gyms are where you work out, but usually the shower stalls are separated on the sides with a curtain in front. Or the stalls go down part of the way but not all the way and there are big openings and cracks. Also, it has been my experience that people do not bring their clothes with them…

All these comparisons about specific events (in which people are united for an elective and selective activity) - these are not good comparisons for when sexual harassment and assault happens. People behave better when they are being held accountable, when they are not anonymous, and/or when they are acting as a…

You have to touch it because that is how YOU pee. Asking us to touch it to accommodate how you pee is pretty selfish.

But see... there’s the problem. Men’s worst case scenario: What if I embarrass myself in front of a woman? Women’s worst case scenario: What if some perv is checking me out and harasses/assaults me?

Yes , I have done that plenty of times in backpacker hostels, sports clubs, hiking trips, etc. The difference is that usually in a situation like that, you know the people and so there is some accountability, not to mention some filtering of who is let in in the first place. This is different than at a mall or a…

YOu said this better than I’ve been saying. And no, I don’t think that your totally legitimate and statistically valid concern which also includes your own experience as a woman is a contributing factor to the discrimination that trans women face. You have no problem sharing your space with trans women- they are not…

This exactly. I have no problem at all with transwomen or any women in the bathroom or changing room or showers or whatever because they are women. But it’s just denying reality to suggest that there aren’t plenty of men out there who are sexually aggressive towards women- leering, harassment, stalkish behaviors, etc.…

Yes, the idea of random men being able to check me out while I'm changing clothes and/or showering freaks me out.

I don’t care about that either. But flip it around. What about urinals? I think plenty of men are uncomfortable peeing openly with a woman or a girl in the same room. Likewise, plenty of women and girls don't want t see that.

Showering in front of men is different, to me. I have no problem being in a stall while there is a man in another stall. But I cannot shower in a public place where there are men showering too. No way. And I don’t think it is just cultural. I think it puts you in a position of being leered at and possibly even at…

Re trans women, honest question here - if they use the woman’s restroom, who in the world would ever know any better? I mean, they’d be in a stall after all. It’s not like there’s a junk inspection at the bathroom door.

The only thing that seems problematic to me is what to do with urinals. Urinals are faster, they save space, and in many places with a lot of traffic, these two issues are important. So I don’t think it’s feasible to get rid of them. But I also completely understand that many people (men, included) are uncomfortable…

I’ve never seen that quote used by Westerners, so I wonder if your FB news feed includes Indians or other Asians? Reason being... This (or a variant of the same) is a really common expression in a lot of cultures (Asian, usually) in which traditionally, the daughter leaves home and lives with her husband’s family…

Nope. Doesn’t matter. They have the option of using any example that has ever been used in the entire history of printed English. Surely they could find a better use example?

Well I think in the case of the story we are talking about, it’s because he’s so much older. When you are Sarah’s age, it’s about learning to make your life/decisions about yourself while other people around you (especially men) want to make it about them. You have to navigate that world of being attracted to those…

He is British, hence the question and the confusion. But he does use an American accent in the film, so to be fair, people might think he's American.

Yup, it’s almost amazing that it was even allowed then. I mean, it’s not even subtle- those pants! That bulge! Listen to the lyrics. Creeeeppppy. Also totally the thing you can identify with as a young girl- your scary emerging sexuality, the way men suddenly start noticing you (flatter you, but want to control you…

I thought Tina Fey was hilarious as usual, but I didn’t think Trump’ commentary was funny at all. Why place him to the side, in a position of judgment, to say how crazy she is when he is clearly just as nuts as she is? I don’t get the idea of trying to make Trump the straight man witness to her comedic insanity. It…

Hmm, I totally agree with your last paragraph. I have that exact feeling a lot lately when people call people out on their privilege in a sort of judgmental way. Like, the whole point of privilege is that it is a perception of the world because of benefits that you’ve had that you are not aware of until you learn to…

ME TOO! But it was also one of the first mature books I read because I loved the movie so much. Up till that point, I'd really only ever read young children's books.