Well yeah. At that point all my interest in him vanished anyway. Who wants that? He was a musician (possibly nuff said there) and very much aware of his good looks as well. I should add that I was there because he’s also extremely smart and more than anything, smart’s my thing.

I hate that my mind goes to this place, too, but I had a similar experience last fall. I knew this girl through a mutual friend and met her husband like two times. The girl is nice but I think her husband is weird and ugly and not a nice person (so all bad things, like I don’t like him at all). One night last fall, he…

OMG we had the exact same takeaway from this article! “Wanted: ugly, low-status, unlovable men to get their self esteem crushed in devastating study.”

The guy who was looking for someone to guide and teach sounds like a fucking serial killer. Who says stuff like that?

“Is this how men think it ought to work?”

Gee it must have been nice responding to the call for “unattractive” or “less attractive “ men to participate in this study.

It’s not just a wound-licking period. Women get less and give more in relationships. It’s time to spend on yourself, not being drained by the wrong man. Even the right man can be a drain, due to unequal expectations. I’m much happier alone than in all but the best relationships. And don’t get me started on FWB. So…

wow what an asshole. honestly if dude thinks its cool to have friends who think that way then you dodged a bullet because he’s probably an asshole too.

You know that that study doesn’t prove that that behavior is “hardwired”, it just proved that that behavior exists, right?

yeah, I really don’t get how older guys expect younger women to want to date them when they don’t want to date people their age—like you think people you’re age are gross, why do you think I wouldn’t?

Well, I think there’s no need for guilt when the hitter-on is grossly older than you are, and you’ve given no sign whatsoever that you’re interested. My mental response to that has always been “are you f’ing kidding me? When you were my current age, would you have given the time of day to someone your current age?”…

Exactly. The age demographic is way too narrow to generalize from, I think. I dated a Very Attractive Man a couple of years ago, and was rejected (no surprise, he was “looking for someone younger” who he could “guide” and “teach”; so that would never have worked out, but man was he hot...) But I had already had one…

Yepppp. I’ve been the ‘secret girlfriend’ and even fell for the ‘shhh, we’ll just secretly hook up, it’ll just be between you and me so it’s romantic’ bullshit in my 20s. My first boyfriend broke up with me because he was ‘embarrassed to be seen with me in public’ and thought he deserved a thinner ‘more fit’ woman. Of…

Men are wired to respond to looks (signs of health and fertility),

“I can totally use your emotional pain to put my dick in you!” - Sociopaths.

I’m not sure if this relates, but one time I was talking to a fella I found attractive. We were having some fun bar chat about his shirt (Hawaiian style with skulls on fire) and hitting it off. It was all going well until his friend yelled “why are you talking to her, she’s bigger than I am!” Right in front of him.…

I’m curious as to their definition of “attractive” as well as how the women in the study were classified. That is very subjective; not everyone finds conventionally attractive men (or women, for that matter) appealing. (And that criteria changes ALL THE TIME.) I’d also like to know if these women considered the…

Researchers noted that “these data may shed light on specific circumstances under which rejection leads to antisocial behavior.”

Very interesting. It’s cool that science can verify that vulture-like dating behavior is a major turnoff.

I find the fact that most romantic pairings are negotiations of social status so disgusting that I cannot let my guard down to date at all. I think I’m traumatized from my past experiences, receiving a ton of male attention while underweight. I’m normally around 120 lbs. But sometimes in my life, usually due to…